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Visiting family & friends

Hi,
This topic may have been covered before. I just wanted some ideas on visiting family & friends. We find it hard to visit people as we take a lot of equipment with us. Is it unfair to keep asking people to visit us instead or decline family events as it usually ends in exhaustion!
Thank you :-)
This topic may have been covered before. I just wanted some ideas on visiting family & friends. We find it hard to visit people as we take a lot of equipment with us. Is it unfair to keep asking people to visit us instead or decline family events as it usually ends in exhaustion!
Thank you :-)
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We have learned over the years it is easier to invite friends to us (, that is if they want to come!)think our children are happier in their own surroundings but I am sure like me you feel as is you ate watching the world from the outside,like a parent at the school gates.
I wish you luck and maybe you are blessed with friends who have more empathy than mine.x
Your true friends will understand and either visit you or make it easy for you to go to them by asking what would help. Your true friends will understand that your disabled child is an integral part of your family and consider their needs as part of the package.
If you really want to go to them, speak frankly to your friends about what would help to make it a successful trip; what THEY can do to help. They may well be desperate to help but just don't know what to do or the right words to ask you. If you are up front with them about your family's travelling needs, chances are you'll get a positive response or they'll understand how hard it is and think coming to you is the best option.
Do you really want friends who make your life harder?
I must say that the invitiations do tail off as they get older. My son used to be included in invites for birthday parties when he was little - now, no, he doesn't get invited anywhere. I'm a bit sad about it - but luckily he couldn't give a stuff. True autistic style