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Sex toys and disability


I'm a product design student and I am thinking of doing a project on improving sex lives for people with physical disabilities. From the research I have done, there does not seem to be many good products out there. I am interested to know what do you think? Do you think there is a real need for this? Is there a type of disability in particular that you think could benefit from such a project? Do you have any suggestions as to how to find people willing to talk about the difficulties they face. 


  • mossycowmossycow Posts: 195Member, Community champion Chatterbox
    Something that holds your weight while you.....well get on with other stuff.

    Personally I have chronic pain and weakness - toys with good handles...

    "To bloom where we are planted"

  • VioletFennVioletFenn Posts: 101Member, Community advisor Chatterbox
    Hi, what an interesting (and useful!) project idea - there really is a market out there, I think. I'm a journalist and one of my specialist subjects is sex and sexuality - I often talk to people whose sex lives are impacted at various levels by their disabilities. There are a few products out there (the main one that springs to mind is the Pulse (contents might obviously be NSFW, depending where you work!).

    I'm more than happy to chat via email if I can help in any way.
  • bambam Posts: 331Member, Community champion Chatterbox
    Hello @VioletFenn, how are you? What about sex toys for men who have disabilities.
  • PSHEexpertPSHEexpert Posts: 71Member, Community advisor Talkative
    Hello folks

    This sounds like a really interesting idea and one which has endless possibilities. From my work with people with various physical disabilities, I would say that (as mossycow notes), something that can be put into position and stays there while other activities are going on is a good starting place - items which can be placed and are sturdy are pretty crucial, whether that's placed on a surface (as it were) or against the body, with an adaptation to support that.

    Something which struck me as an interesting issue was that of sensory sensitivity.  I think it would be a fascinating design spec.  I'd be more than happy, also, to offer input where/if I can.

    Gill :)
    - Gill 
  • sabini13sabini13 Posts: 3Member Listener
    My partner is a (fairly) high functioning c5 disabled man -I  am mildly hypermobile so "hip-lock" has always been an issue,but I am classed able bodied /but have learning Spld's. He is a science Phd and has worked in the field of eyegaze technology, so  assistive sex technology has been a subject as AHEM :blush:  healthy adults in our 50's - been discussed - we even thought about designing sex toys ourselves for disability- but we have  a lot of interests and shelved the idea fairly quickly. There are indeed many many issues some to do with nerve damage - too much vibration could increase de sensitisation not decrease it, or horror of horrors - cause pain ;) unless that's your "thing" not fun at all ! Other considerations are myriad.. including the possibilities of haptics and Second Life which may be a way to have interactive sexual experiences - if desired,within a virtual environment where individuals can choose to be portrayed however they like, and take relationships to whatever level they feel able to enjoy safely. There are obviously pro's and con's involved as in this day and age we are able to forge strong ties even over the internet without meeting, so issues of exploitation/con artists etc are to be considered carefully - that is common to all relationships but add in sexual pleasure and a powerful visual element and this can be a dangerous cocktail - no pun intended. Scuse the rambling lol - Very interesting idea with masses of wonderful and happy potential - I am also an artist/musician and will no doubt be exploring disability and sexiness at some point in my degree - just started :) .
    There is so much to consider- people with no limbs,limited grip,sensory issues,-hygiene,hypo- allergenic, making the toys visually pleasing (please NO beige medical looking accessories!!) simple controls,safety,non genital stimulation (body remap following injury ?? not sure about this...) Anyway all the best :) 
  • mossycowmossycow Posts: 195Member, Community champion Chatterbox
    Degree sounds interesting, whats it in?

    Agree with the role of fantasy, second life is interesting....though I find getting comfy, and just talking can be very fun....  

    Something to help hygiene in bed would be good as getting bathroom to wash toys is hard (god i hope my mum  never finds these threads....).... 

    A ramp at our local Ann Summers would be a start hahaha!

    "To bloom where we are planted"

  • simonsablesimonsable Posts: 45Member, Community advisor Whisperer
    I would love to explore the possibility. Talking from a guy with severe Athetoid Cerebral Palsy, such products need some body control. I think this issue needs looking into and I would be delighted to help out, if I can

  • Sam_ScopeSam_Scope Posts: 3,272Administrator Scope community team
    If you google sex toys for disabled people, there are some great websites with different products such as chairs and swings/hoists and masturbation aids for men and women.  

    It is a really interesting subject that I am glad we are talking about!
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