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Did you acquire your impairment as an adult?

AlexAlex Posts: 846Administrator admin
Hi everyone,

We're developing a new online and print information product for people who have recently become disabled as an adult (rather than growing up with an impairment). The information covers common questions that people have around care, money, housing and equipment.

We have a draft version and we'd really like to get some feedback to see if we're covering the right questions and to see what you think of the answers! 

If you're interested, and acquired your impairment as an adult, please let me know below and I will send you a copy.



  • bambam Posts: 331Member, Community champion Chatterbox
    I diagnosed with my disease as an adult.
  • AlexAlex Posts: 846Administrator admin
    Thanks @bam - I'll send it over. I'm afraid it's mainly UK specific (like stuff about benefits). It would still be great to get your thoughts.
  • bambam Posts: 331Member, Community champion Chatterbox
    I'm sorry I didn't even think about that. I was just so eager I could answer a question I just blurted it out
  • MarkmywordsMarkmywords Posts: 114Member Chatterbox
    Aged 40 for me @Alex . I'll help if I can.
  • AlexAlex Posts: 846Administrator admin
    Thanks @Markmywords and @Bam - I'll email you now. 

    Still looking for more people if anyone else is interested. Thanks!
  • hedgehog45thhedgehog45th Posts: 6Member Whisperer
    I was first diagnosed at 29, the diagnosis had taken 3 years to get though.
  • Angel40Angel40 Posts: 33Member Whisperer
    Hi Alex, 42 for my partner. Am more than happy to help.
  • AlexAlex Posts: 846Administrator admin
    edited January 11
    Wonderful! Thanks @hedgehog45th and @Angel40 - I've just emailed you both.

    I've emailed you all the Word version - let me know if you need a different format.

  • MattStuart555MattStuart555 Posts: 4Member Listener
    Would love to give you some feedback.... I'm sure it will be a great read. I'm hoping to learn something. Thank You. Matt
  • ShaunRobert1234ShaunRobert1234 Posts: 3Member Listener
    Would you send me the information.  On ESA due to on going health issues, Have had a lung transplant. DLA stopped. Deep in dept now.
  • nanof6nanof6 Posts: 151Member Talkative
    hi yes at 66 i have siaratic arthris ,divaticulitis, bilatral  sacrilitis, inpingment on both sholders, other things as  well, but the last year has been very hard, being in a wheelchair, getting abuse from some people loads of different things happen, its makeing me house bound rather than put up with it,im trying to find a holiday where no one nos me to get away for a break from all the crap, but disable holiday companys charge 3 times what it cost , ordanery holiday with a disable toilet no steps droped curbs is hard to find, but ive got the time to keep looking.when i got the wheelchair manual i thought it was temp,now ive been given electric wchair, been told nothing can be done for me, sent to the pain clinic and i feel rejected, tossed aside.
  • AlexAlex Posts: 846Administrator admin
    Thanks @nanof6, @ShaunRobert1234, @MattStuart555! I've emailed you all.

    Shaun - This might not be the right information for your situation. We'd really like to help you.

    If you have questions around benefits, you can ask our benefit advisor here:

    We also have an excellent tool for checking what benefits you may be entitled to:

    If you're feeling a bit overwhelmed or would just prefer to talk to someone, please give us a ring on 0808 800 3333.
  • Lynne53Lynne53 Posts: 29Member Whisperer
    Willing to help if I possibly can.  Still waiting for neurological diagnosis but certainly understand the problems that this and other conditions cause.
  • peterclarkpeterclark Posts: 1Member Listener
    I was diagnosed recently with RA.I would like help in 
    Knowing how to claim benefits .
    Also suffered depression since 1993,and now need medication for anxiety.
  • SealegsSealegs Posts: 5Member Listener
    I was diagnosed with my illness as a adult.
  • mossycowmossycow Posts: 164Member, Community champion Chatterbox
    Yes please, would love to read draft. Sent Sam an email about similar and been seeing a need for this.

    Do you need contact details or have you access to those?

    Great idea, really pleased!  I can not believe how hard it has been getting basic info. It took me a year to understand what all this toilet radar stuff was... I called bus company 3 years ago to ask if disabled people get a discount, they said no... I found out 2 months ago I can get a free bus pass for me and a carer!!!  And I cant even say the letters ESA without feeling sick..,,

    There must be a better way   :)

    "To bloom where we are planted"

  • SeachySeachy Posts: 7Member Whisperer
    I became disabled following a non fault car accident at 24 years old. Totally flipped my life and took me over a decade to fully come to terms with it and sort everything out and even longer to ask for support from adult social services as I was so used to reading all the negative stories
  • AlexAlex Posts: 846Administrator admin
    Wonderful - @Seachy @mossycow @Lynne53 @peterclark @Sealegs - you should all have an email from me.

    Thank you so much for your help!

  • Lynne53Lynne53 Posts: 29Member Whisperer
    Yes I have received it, working on it.
  • MattStuart555MattStuart555 Posts: 4Member Listener
    Broke my back playing rugby when I was 25, now 52. Suffer from pain almost all the time. Managed to get addicted to morphine which was medically prescribed, had to have a 4 week stay in the Priory hospital to over come this. Consequently the strongest pain killer I get to take is Paracetamol and codeine. Since this I have been diagnosed with chronic depression and anxiety which has been a total nightmare.  In the last year I have been diagnosed with osteoarthritis, this has totally wrecked my left knee and am now struggling to walk. I have been told by the NHS that I need a Knee replacement but I struggle to qualify as I'm too fat and too young. My whole life just seems to be a complete downward spiral. The above is clearly condensed version of events. But in short, my life is and has been a downward spiral since breaking my back some 27 years ago... if I wasn't such a coward I'd have ended it now :-(  
  • SeachySeachy Posts: 7Member Whisperer
    @MattStuart555 not knowing you or your whole history I cannot go in depth but having lived with chronic pain since my car accident along with numerous other issues and depression for 15 years now I do not see you as a coward at all. It takes a strong person to live every day in pain and I cannot imagine it continuing for as long as you have even though I know it will. 
  • mossycowmossycow Posts: 164Member, Community champion Chatterbox
    Sorry to hear of your stories fellow thread writers xx

    @Alex I seem to have deleted your email, would you mind sending it again please as I thought the document was absolutely excellent and will be vital to so many people.

    "To bloom where we are planted"

  • AlexAlex Posts: 846Administrator admin
    @mossycow Sure, I've just sent it, thanks.
  • mossycowmossycow Posts: 164Member, Community champion Chatterbox
    Great!  Thanks

    "To bloom where we are planted"

  • AlexAlex Posts: 846Administrator admin
    Massive thank you to everyone who has emailed me your thoughts on this. The feedback so far has been incredibly useful. If you've not emailed me back - there's still a couple of weeks left (although the sooner the better!). I look forward to hearing from you!
  • kevstar1kevstar1 Posts: 6Member Listener
    I lost my sight in a work accident at 49years old am now registered blind suffer from panic attacks and anxiety issues
  • BeccaShark123BeccaShark123 Posts: 10Member Whisperer
    I was diagnosed with joint hypermobility syndrome aged 21, and that was recently changed to Fibromyalgia aged 23. I wasn't diagnosed with dyspraxia until I was 19- everything I have, bar asthma, has been diagnosed in my young adulthood! :neutral:
  • SealegsSealegs Posts: 5Member Listener
    Yes I was diagnosed with  Spastic Paraplegia when I was about 35.
  • AlexAlex Posts: 846Administrator admin
    Thanks @kevstar1, @BeccaShark123, @Sealegs. I've emailed you all - let me know if you have any problems. Look forward to hearing your feedback.

  • shelly_zshelly_z Posts: 1Member Listener
    Hi....i started with my back problems when I was in my early 20s, finally got taken seriously after an MRI when I was 42, tried usual meds, physio, spinal injections, which finally led to surgery in 2014, after which got an infection, spent 5 weeks in hospital, had to have 3 wash outs, a vacpac inserted, went back to work for a 6 months, after struggling for the 6 months, had to admit defeat....which brings us to today, im under the umbrella term "failed back surgery syndrome" with extensive nerve damage and scar tissue. I'm awaiting a trial for a spinal cord stimulator, which hopefully will lead to being able to take less meds. Anyone's experiences regarding SCS would be gratefully received ☺
  • snakemansnakeman Posts: 1Member Listener
    Late to the party, but I am disabled following an accident when I was thirty two, now forty one and happy to help
  • basiclee08basiclee08 Posts: 58Member Talkative
    Hi Alex,Great idea and sounds like people on here  found it useful!. I was involved In a RTA 2 years ago which left me using a wheelchair. A Lot of physio and now starting to look and get back working only P/T as am not sure how my body is going to manage. Benefits system a total nightmare not sure on threshold to get disability tax credits how many hours to get them.DEA or like ghosts know were to be seen or found lol. Heard gov work schemes to avoid?.their should be a easier way to access help/advice. 

    Cheers Lee
  • onmybiketooonmybiketoo Posts: 8Member Whisperer
    2006 Hubby caught a staph infection left as an high level tetraplegic spinal cord injury at age 61. went over 4 days from extremely fit and healthy to now having to have round the clock care. 
  • emkins40emkins40 Posts: 27Member Whisperer
    Hi Alex, 
    I would like to help. My conditions only developed in 2011 following a severe car crash with prolonged concussion and brain injury leaving me with uncontrolled epilepsy. 
    Its something that really upsets me but my 3 children 15,13 and only 7 live mainly with my ex husband as I cannot care for them as I would wish. It breaks my heart. However, at least they have a relatively normal childhood. I do see them every 3 rd weekend and longer in holidays but I would do anything to be with them daily and give my youngest daughter the same opportunities I was able to give my older children. Just the bedtime stories and cooking with mum and days out. It has all been taken away.
  • AlexAlex Posts: 846Administrator admin
    Thanks @emkins40 @onmybiketoo @basiclee08 @snakeman @shelly_z

     I've emailed you all - let me know if you have any problems. Look forward to hearing your feedback.
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