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Don't give up I know it will feel like a constant battle and very draining, your girl is special but different to other girls that's why some may ostracise her they feel threatened by individuality so target it, if it's bullying then it should be taken seriously by the school no question, schools thankfully have zero tolerance toward bullying nowadays at least they should have!
Have you a close friend or family member who could support you?
It can take its toll on you so try to look after yourself,
if possible as suggested by @mumof3boys I would try and get your daughter in a school for autism, where she won't feel odd she will feel accepted and strong as she should feel.
Best of luck there are people out there who understand your plight and will support you I promise xx -
Your story sounds very familiar, it is one we had to face and one I have heard from too many parents with children on the spectrum. At one school my daughter was threatened with expulsion and ended up with them threatening to take me to court. I stood my ground and they backed down. The end of year report was a joke. She started a new school after the summer and they expressed surprise when we finally gave the school report because the school had not passed on any information. By their assessment she had jumped up two levels on her potential SATS results in six weeks.
The real break through for us was when we found she more comfortable writing down what was happening to her. We knew things were bad, but when the school asked her to write down what was going on no one realised just how bad it was for her.
She always had issues struggling with making friends at school, but went on to make a few good friends outside of school, at 6th form and particularly at university, where she got a first. She now works in a busy London store on the shop floor dealing with customers. She makes her own cosplay clothes and props and last year went to Germany with friends.
I mention this because when my daughter was your daughter's age I never thought she would achieve so much. Especially those nights when she would cry herself to sleep because she believed her life would always be like it was then. But she would get up in the morning and go back to school each day.
If you have been made to feel uncomfortable in approaching the school to deal with bullying issues then it is time to consider changing schools. Within main stream schooling your child is likely to always have a problem with some bullying, but how the school deals with bullying can make a huge difference to your child and how she feels about herself. If a school denies they have a bullying problem I would steer well clear of them.
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As a member of a group I did things.
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hhttps://www.specialneedsjungle.com/advocates-for-children-a-free-sen-legal-advocacy-charity/ttp:// Sorry forgot to address your immediate need. The above charity should be able to assist you. They will try to work with you and the school to resolve problems, but if necessary will help you to go to tribunal if required.
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Some great support here! @VioletFenn do you have any experience of this?Scope
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To the post Geork i cant get thru to the link in question uve sent anymore ive just dropped my daughter again I asked the head if she's addressed the bullying and she said not for somthink that happened two weeks ago is that right my daughter sometimes takes a while to tel me things because there's so much goin on in her head
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Here is @Geoark 's link again to Special Needs Jungle.Scope
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Hi @Golding123 - this link should work properly - https://www.specialneedsjungle.com/advocates-for-children-a-free-sen-legal-advocacy-charity/
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Sorry Goldring123 I seem to have an issue posting links on this forum. I can see what went wrong, but not sure why, but can see Sam and Chris have given the correct link.
These sort of incidents are best sorted as they happen, or shortly afterwards, and while it is not right I can kind of see where the school is coming from. So tackling the individual over the incident may not be a viable option, reminding everyone about what is and is not acceptable behaviour is, finding strategies to encourage your daughter to report things earlier absolutely is. Is it fair, no bullying is never fair.
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Hi @Golding123, how are you and your daughter? Have the school addressed the bullying?
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