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Hi I'm Rebecca ask me questions about Mental Health

RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 54Community advisor Talkative
edited October 12 in Ask a Mental Health advisor

Hi, I'm Rebecca. 

I am a qualified hypnotherapist and a counselor volunteering for ChildLine and the NSPCC. I work to support children and young people with a variety of mental health needs. I have spent 20 years working within local government in both social housing and social services supporting people who are vulnerable and with complex needs. I am a keen advocate of supporting survivors of domestic abuse. 


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  • wenlockwenlock Posts: 6Member Listener
    Hi
    I have been caring for my son who is now 16yrs old with ADHD, he was only diagnosed at aged 10yrs. I have been on antidepressants for over 14yrs, I have since found out that I have a blood disorder and a blood clot on my brain and so my health is not at my best right now and I am really worried about mine and my children's future.
    I have a supportive partner but he has little patience these days so conflict between him and my son is high. My doctor is fantastic but as ADHD is not classed as a severe disability I have never had any restbite care for my son. My sons absent father rarely has him and has never been on the same page as me so I've not had his support either.
     I need some kind of therapy because I feel constantly angry and I want to have a loving relationship with my son in the future. I have X3 other children that live with me, ages from 19yrs-4yrs. 
  • rebeccahinton2rebeccahinton2 Posts: 4Member Listener
    Hi thats great I am looking for an advocate to support me what area do you cover
  • damian28damian28 Posts: 2Member Listener
    We are struggling to encourage our young adult son to take his daily medication for early signs if psychosis - do you have any tips or strategies we could try ? 
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 54Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @damian28

    Unfortunately many patients with mental health conditions refuse to take their medication at some point and watching on can be heart breaking. I am sure that you are able to see side affects of him not taking the medication and it can be frustrating and tiring. 

    First things first - have you had a conversation about his reasoning?

    If he is refusing because he is having side affects or because he doesn't think it is working. Both of those reasons it would be worth having a conversation with him and his doctors as to what is happening and the impacts on him. He might think he has already had this conversation but that he isn't being listened to in which case it is important to put yourself in his shoes and understand what he needs.

    Not taking the medication because he doesn't think he needs to is very different and is a lot harder to address. He might seen the medication as getting in his way and forget that it has made him well. Reasoning can sometimes help, reminding him of how things were before he started to take the medication.

    The best advice I can give you though is talk to him.

    Hope this helps
    Rebecca
  • treemanharttreemanhart Posts: 14Member
    hi Rebcca,

    i want to provide you with some backgruond information about my situation, but its a few pages and i dont want it read on the furum. would yu be able to read some background info about situation? and is there a way i can send you it that would be confidential?

    many thnks
    treeman
  • wildlifewildlife Posts: 831Member Chatterbox
    Hi @RebeccaMHadvisor I posted an update on the discussion "Complex PTSD and no help available" Would love to hear your thoughts as to where I go from here..
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 54Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @wildlife

    Sorry for the delay in my response

    Rebecca
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 54Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @treemanhart

    I'm not too sure - @Sam_Scope - is there a facility for this?

    Rebecca

  • Sam_ScopeSam_Scope Posts: 3,234Administrator Scope community team
    Hi @treemanhart and @RebeccaMHadvisor for safeguarding reasons, we don't recommend you share private information, apologies for this.

    If you would like to speak to someone @treemanhart you can call the Scope Helpline on 08088003333 
  • treemanharttreemanhart Posts: 14Member
    Hi both Rebecca and Sam, thnks for getting back. the only way i'll be able to get relevnet advice is by sharing personal info, but not prepared to have shared on the open forum.

    i can ring number you suggested but i need somone to read my situation rather than me trying to explin it over phone.

    many thnks





  • treemanharttreemanhart Posts: 14Member

    hi Sam/Rebecca am still waiting to see if yu can reposnd to my last post yesterday, and also I need Rebbecas advice regarding the other post I have called PIP Predicament.


    and for Sam, I note yu sent me private email advising thaqt you think I need to speak to appropriate adviser about my issues, can you direct me to anyone in particular?

  • Sam_ScopeSam_Scope Posts: 3,234Administrator Scope community team

    hi Sam/Rebecca am still waiting to see if yu can reposnd to my last post yesterday, and also I need Rebbecas advice regarding the other post I have called PIP Predicament.


    and for Sam, I note yu sent me private email advising thaqt you think I need to speak to appropriate adviser about my issues, can you direct me to anyone in particular?

    Hi @treemanhart you can email the helpline on helpline@scope.org.uk 
  • lavenderlavender Posts: 26Member Whisperer
    Good afternoon Rebecca..; I amstruggling to find representation/advocacy help for my Atos medical assesment?
    I have sent my medical records to D.W.P,to no effect, I know my mental health issues ,both severe depression,but especially my Personality disorder which manifests itself in aggression when confronted?
    I'm already aware of some of the Tactics,Manipulation,and Lies of the  French company Atos .
    I can only be myself which will see me fail or the assesment stopped by the Atos individual.
    After the poor treatment of others i am already angry,they will not like who i am when confronted ?
    Any help please?
    Thank you...
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 54Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @lavender

    I can hear that you are really worried about your assessment and can feel your frustration. 

    The first thing I would say is keep an open mind. There are many people who have had bad experience but this is about you and you need to put yourself first.

    There is some information here about preparing for the assessment that you might find useful.
     
    In terms someone to support you, do you have a support worker or family member who understands you condition that you would be able to take with you?

    Going through this process is very stressful but there is help and support out there.

    Rebecca
  • ClydeBuiltClydeBuilt Posts: 22Member Listener
    looking back, I can tick the boxes on quite a few of the things that went on to produce murderers/serial killers etc. Is their like a 'monster switch' Im not seeing?

    Actually I tend to 'overcare' (is that a word) about people and can get upset by certain subjects. Its just when taken as a whole, my life history is kinda on the scary side.
  • davidmarshall9998davidmarshall9998 Posts: 2Member Listener
    hi rebecca my name is david marshall i want to talk to you about depression as part of my mental health terms

  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 54Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @davidmarshall9998

    Have you been diagnosed with depression or is your depression part of a wider mental health issue? I would like to be able to support you the best I can.

    Rebecca
  • DasiydoDasiydo Posts: 73Member Talkative
    Can I talk about you depression with link with dyspraxia and half deaf if not I understand
    V.shaw
  • lavenderlavender Posts: 26Member Whisperer
    Dear Rebecca ; Can i please tell you about an experience (recent) of mine in the hope you will comment and that it may set others to think?
    I have suffered many years with severe deppression,and a violent personality disorder,during which time i met a variety of health proffessionals and C.P.N's,still taking more meds one can shake a stick at.I have now been reffered to a quite new group the P.P.S.S. the clinical phycologist ran through the usual questions noting occassionally what i said.At the end she asked a question no other had asked me? " Why after counselling with the people from " MIND" did i get greater comfort,support,and well being than all other C.P.N's"? Great question i thought.
    Answer to me was so straight forward,i explained that sitting in a room with C.P.N's etc firing their questions,bog standard the same as they did to the paitient before,and the patient after me,all the time thinking to myself how in personal,i bet thier really more concerened, Have i fed the cat-do i have enough petrol to get home,should have topped up,what on earth can i have for dinner just for a change,etc,etc? But the caring people at MIND do it differently,they are willing to not just willing to listen and take notes but crucially re-count their own hardships in life that quite often were similar to my own,in some cases even more tragic,always remaing confidetial of names.I would leave their rooms feeling finally someone really cares and listens and most impotantly contributes by relating mine to theirs  hardships " Sincere Sincererty"....x
  • TopkittenTopkitten Posts: 185Member Talkative
    The level of impersonality within the Mental Health community is staggering. Even therapists aren't immune to it.

    TK
  • lavenderlavender Posts: 26Member Whisperer
    Topkitten , Thank you for your comment.
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 54Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @Dasiydo

    Please let me know how I can help

    Rebecca


  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 54Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @lavender

    I think that it was a great question and I hope that the way you answered it will perhaps give them an insight into how others work. I feel that the NHS is a wonderful thing but they are struggling financially, struggling to recruit and keep staff and struggling to keep up with the amount of paperwork the government demands of them making the services they offer not necessarily the services we need when we need it.

    I hope that some of the changes the government is making within the mental health services and the awareness that is being raised in the media about mental health will go so way to changing things for the better.

    Rebecca
  • DasiydoDasiydo Posts: 73Member Talkative
    I  worried about few things but now just give up on hope just go flow
    V.shaw
  • PippaScopePippaScope Posts: 113Member, Administrator Scope community team
    Hi @Dasiydo, is there anything we can help you with? 
  • frecklesfreckles Posts: 6Member Listener
    Hi rebbeca i have mental health i,m seeing a phychatrist nxt monday i also have interstital lung disease and see my consultant every six months i m awaiting another CT scan as i seen him a few weeks ago i have knees and back pain this is making me tired all the time i got a pip questionaire the other week which had to be in on the 9th of october i was awarded pip until sept 2018 i could only send limited info in as waiting to here from pain clinic and not seeing phychatrist until the 23rd all this is streesing me out any help or advice would me much appriciated
  • rayboylerayboyle Posts: 2Member Listener

    Hi Rebecca

    I work with someone who has mental health problems. There are times when things go wrong. How can I get help for my department and me so we know how to handle this without situations becoming work place gossip?


    Ray


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