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RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative

Hi, I'm Rebecca. 

I am a qualified hypnotherapist and a counselor volunteering for ChildLine and the NSPCC. I work to support children and young people with a variety of mental health needs. I have spent 20 years working within local government in both social housing and social services supporting people who are vulnerable and with complex needs. I am a keen advocate of supporting survivors of domestic abuse. 


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  • wenlockwenlock Posts: 9Member Listener
    Hi
    I have been caring for my son who is now 16yrs old with ADHD, he was only diagnosed at aged 10yrs. I have been on antidepressants for over 14yrs, I have since found out that I have a blood disorder and a blood clot on my brain and so my health is not at my best right now and I am really worried about mine and my children's future.
    I have a supportive partner but he has little patience these days so conflict between him and my son is high. My doctor is fantastic but as ADHD is not classed as a severe disability I have never had any restbite care for my son. My sons absent father rarely has him and has never been on the same page as me so I've not had his support either.
     I need some kind of therapy because I feel constantly angry and I want to have a loving relationship with my son in the future. I have X3 other children that live with me, ages from 19yrs-4yrs. 
  • rebeccahinton2rebeccahinton2 Posts: 4Member Listener
    Hi thats great I am looking for an advocate to support me what area do you cover
  • damian28damian28 Posts: 2Member Listener
    We are struggling to encourage our young adult son to take his daily medication for early signs if psychosis - do you have any tips or strategies we could try ? 
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @damian28

    Unfortunately many patients with mental health conditions refuse to take their medication at some point and watching on can be heart breaking. I am sure that you are able to see side affects of him not taking the medication and it can be frustrating and tiring. 

    First things first - have you had a conversation about his reasoning?

    If he is refusing because he is having side affects or because he doesn't think it is working. Both of those reasons it would be worth having a conversation with him and his doctors as to what is happening and the impacts on him. He might think he has already had this conversation but that he isn't being listened to in which case it is important to put yourself in his shoes and understand what he needs.

    Not taking the medication because he doesn't think he needs to is very different and is a lot harder to address. He might seen the medication as getting in his way and forget that it has made him well. Reasoning can sometimes help, reminding him of how things were before he started to take the medication.

    The best advice I can give you though is talk to him.

    Hope this helps
    Rebecca
  • treemanharttreemanhart Posts: 14Member Listener
    hi Rebcca,

    i want to provide you with some backgruond information about my situation, but its a few pages and i dont want it read on the furum. would yu be able to read some background info about situation? and is there a way i can send you it that would be confidential?

    many thnks
    treeman
  • wildlifewildlife Posts: 1,124Member Chatterbox
    Hi @RebeccaMHadvisor I posted an update on the discussion "Complex PTSD and no help available" Would love to hear your thoughts as to where I go from here..
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @wildlife

    Sorry for the delay in my response

    Rebecca
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @treemanhart

    I'm not too sure - @Sam_Scope - is there a facility for this?

    Rebecca

  • Sam_ScopeSam_Scope Posts: 6,638Administrator Scope community team
    Hi @treemanhart and @RebeccaMHadvisor for safeguarding reasons, we don't recommend you share private information, apologies for this.

    If you would like to speak to someone @treemanhart you can call the Scope Helpline on 08088003333 
    Scope
    Senior online community officer
  • treemanharttreemanhart Posts: 14Member Listener
    Hi both Rebecca and Sam, thnks for getting back. the only way i'll be able to get relevnet advice is by sharing personal info, but not prepared to have shared on the open forum.

    i can ring number you suggested but i need somone to read my situation rather than me trying to explin it over phone.

    many thnks





  • treemanharttreemanhart Posts: 14Member Listener

    hi Sam/Rebecca am still waiting to see if yu can reposnd to my last post yesterday, and also I need Rebbecas advice regarding the other post I have called PIP Predicament.


    and for Sam, I note yu sent me private email advising thaqt you think I need to speak to appropriate adviser about my issues, can you direct me to anyone in particular?

  • Sam_ScopeSam_Scope Posts: 6,638Administrator Scope community team

    hi Sam/Rebecca am still waiting to see if yu can reposnd to my last post yesterday, and also I need Rebbecas advice regarding the other post I have called PIP Predicament.


    and for Sam, I note yu sent me private email advising thaqt you think I need to speak to appropriate adviser about my issues, can you direct me to anyone in particular?

    Hi @treemanhart you can email the helpline on [email protected] 
    Scope
    Senior online community officer
  • lavenderlavender Posts: 29Member Whisperer
    Good afternoon Rebecca..; I amstruggling to find representation/advocacy help for my Atos medical assesment?
    I have sent my medical records to D.W.P,to no effect, I know my mental health issues ,both severe depression,but especially my Personality disorder which manifests itself in aggression when confronted?
    I'm already aware of some of the Tactics,Manipulation,and Lies of the  French company Atos .
    I can only be myself which will see me fail or the assesment stopped by the Atos individual.
    After the poor treatment of others i am already angry,they will not like who i am when confronted ?
    Any help please?
    Thank you...
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @lavender

    I can hear that you are really worried about your assessment and can feel your frustration. 

    The first thing I would say is keep an open mind. There are many people who have had bad experience but this is about you and you need to put yourself first.

    There is some information here about preparing for the assessment that you might find useful.
     
    In terms someone to support you, do you have a support worker or family member who understands you condition that you would be able to take with you?

    Going through this process is very stressful but there is help and support out there.

    Rebecca
  • ClydeBuiltClydeBuilt Posts: 41Member Whisperer
    looking back, I can tick the boxes on quite a few of the things that went on to produce murderers/serial killers etc. Is their like a 'monster switch' Im not seeing?

    Actually I tend to 'overcare' (is that a word) about people and can get upset by certain subjects. Its just when taken as a whole, my life history is kinda on the scary side.
  • davidmarshall9998davidmarshall9998 Posts: 2Member Listener
    hi rebecca my name is david marshall i want to talk to you about depression as part of my mental health terms

  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @davidmarshall9998

    Have you been diagnosed with depression or is your depression part of a wider mental health issue? I would like to be able to support you the best I can.

    Rebecca
  • DasiydoDasiydo Posts: 94Member Talkative
    Can I talk about you depression with link with dyspraxia and half deaf if not I understand
    V.shaw
  • lavenderlavender Posts: 29Member Whisperer
    Dear Rebecca ; Can i please tell you about an experience (recent) of mine in the hope you will comment and that it may set others to think?
    I have suffered many years with severe deppression,and a violent personality disorder,during which time i met a variety of health proffessionals and C.P.N's,still taking more meds one can shake a stick at.I have now been reffered to a quite new group the P.P.S.S. the clinical phycologist ran through the usual questions noting occassionally what i said.At the end she asked a question no other had asked me? " Why after counselling with the people from " MIND" did i get greater comfort,support,and well being than all other C.P.N's"? Great question i thought.
    Answer to me was so straight forward,i explained that sitting in a room with C.P.N's etc firing their questions,bog standard the same as they did to the paitient before,and the patient after me,all the time thinking to myself how in personal,i bet thier really more concerened, Have i fed the cat-do i have enough petrol to get home,should have topped up,what on earth can i have for dinner just for a change,etc,etc? But the caring people at MIND do it differently,they are willing to not just willing to listen and take notes but crucially re-count their own hardships in life that quite often were similar to my own,in some cases even more tragic,always remaing confidetial of names.I would leave their rooms feeling finally someone really cares and listens and most impotantly contributes by relating mine to theirs  hardships " Sincere Sincererty"....x
  • TopkittenTopkitten Posts: 887Member Chatterbox
    The level of impersonality within the Mental Health community is staggering. Even therapists aren't immune to it.

    TK
    I am here to kick ass and chew bubblegum... and I am all out of bubblegum -- They Live 80 something cult film.
  • lavenderlavender Posts: 29Member Whisperer
    Topkitten , Thank you for your comment.
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @Dasiydo

    Please let me know how I can help

    Rebecca


  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @lavender

    I think that it was a great question and I hope that the way you answered it will perhaps give them an insight into how others work. I feel that the NHS is a wonderful thing but they are struggling financially, struggling to recruit and keep staff and struggling to keep up with the amount of paperwork the government demands of them making the services they offer not necessarily the services we need when we need it.

    I hope that some of the changes the government is making within the mental health services and the awareness that is being raised in the media about mental health will go so way to changing things for the better.

    Rebecca
  • DasiydoDasiydo Posts: 94Member Talkative
    I  worried about few things but now just give up on hope just go flow
    V.shaw
  • Pippa_ScopePippa_Scope Posts: 4,907Administrator Scope community team
    Hi @Dasiydo, is there anything we can help you with? 
  • frecklesfreckles Posts: 167Member Talkative
    Hi rebbeca i have mental health i,m seeing a phychatrist nxt monday i also have interstital lung disease and see my consultant every six months i m awaiting another CT scan as i seen him a few weeks ago i have knees and back pain this is making me tired all the time i got a pip questionaire the other week which had to be in on the 9th of october i was awarded pip until sept 2018 i could only send limited info in as waiting to here from pain clinic and not seeing phychatrist until the 23rd all this is streesing me out any help or advice would me much appriciated
  • rayboylerayboyle Posts: 2Member Listener

    Hi Rebecca

    I work with someone who has mental health problems. There are times when things go wrong. How can I get help for my department and me so we know how to handle this without situations becoming work place gossip?


    Ray


  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @freckles

    How did it go with the psychiatrist? Unfortunately PIP is not my strong point but there is some great advice on here. You might want to start with this.

    Having to go through to process and the uncertainty is very stressful and can further impact on your mental health. Doing some research and understanding the process better can really help you as you will have a better understanding of what information you might be asked for and questions you could be asked. Also talking to others who have gone or who are going through the process might help you and our online community is a great place to start.

    Good luck with the process
    Rebecca
  • frecklesfreckles Posts: 167Member Talkative
    Hi rebecca thanks for your supply my pshychatrist thinks i mite have autism hes doing some back ground checks on my past
  • frecklesfreckles Posts: 167Member Talkative
    Hi rebecca thanks for your supply my pshychatrist thinks i mite have autism hes doing some back ground checks on my past
  • carrie16carrie16 Posts: 6Member Listener
    Hi ..I had been seeing my ..cpn for 17 years ...house visits...he has now retired. ..is there anyway is can get his reports which he sent to esa and dla....i would like these reports for evedenice to send in.
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @carrie16

    You have the right to access information about yourself and can discuss this with your GP or with the Community Mental Health team of which he was part. There may be some circumstances where they will not grant you access to some parts of your record if they feel that this may have a detramental affect on your mental health but they will be able to discuss that with you.

    Rebecca
  • carrie16carrie16 Posts: 6Member Listener
    Thank you so much for your advise.
  • fred777fred777 Posts: 1Member Listener
    Hi therei’m 22 and have asgburgers symptom and have been struggling with having no talk to and makes me feeling like i’m drowning all the time 
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @fred777

    It sounds as though things are very difficult for you at the moment and I can hear that you are really struggling. I am wondering what support you do have at the moment and whether you can tell me a little more about what is happening for you?

    Rebecca
  • Louise81Louise81 Posts: 2Member Listener
    Hi Rebecca
    I was hoping you may be able to give me abit of advice. My 18 yr old son has severe anxiety, it came on all of sudden last year, hes now  at the point he cant leave the house. I had to pay for a private Councillor cbt as the nhs wanted him to go to group meeting. He has stopped seeing his Councillor after a couple of home visits. I dont know if im doing right from wrong, do i let him deal with it on his own with my help, which i dont know what im doing. This is what he wants or do make him see someone. Its so hard seeing him the way he is and how it affects him. I dont know whats best. Hope you can  point me in the right direction
    Kind regards
    Louise 
  • kaurkaur Posts: 45Member Whisperer
    Hi rebbeca my bro has EUPD and compulsive gambling addiction :(
  • kaurkaur Posts: 45Member Whisperer
    We as a family are trying to get him the right support we heard of gordon moody which helps gamblers in a 12 week residential setting. The only thing his psychatrist is not that keen on the idea all the shrink want is too discharge him from the psychiatric hospital asap. My bro agrees to go ti gordon moody I have the forms to fill in im unsure now. My bro has no fixed abode he will b homeless :(
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @Louise81

    I can hear that things have been very difficult for you. It must be very stressful trying to get your son the help that you can see that he needs. I am wondering if there was anything that triggered the anxiety that he is suffering?

    You have said that he stopped seeing the councillor after a couple of home visits. Can I ask, is this because he didn’t want to engage or something else?

    It is clear that you want to best for him but you can’t force him to accept help, he can’t start to get better until he, first he has to accept he needs the help and then accept the help. The only thing you can continue to do is to be there for him. Look out for him, support him the best you can.

    You need to make sure that you are also taking care of yourself, the situation that you are in is stressful and worrying. Perhaps there are some support groups for careers in the area that you could attend?

    I know that what I have said doesn't really help you move forward, but you are clearly doing the right thing for you son by looking for answers.


  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @kaur

    I am really sorry to hear about the difficulties that you are having with your brother. Sometimes it can be very difficult to understand what to do for the best. It is really important to understand the reasons that the psychiatrist is not keen on the idea and what their support plan will be for him once he leaves the hospital. Is there anyone within his support team that you can sit down with and talk to about your brothers options?

    It is also really important to talk to your brother, about what he wants and the help and support he thinks will be beneficial to him. 
  • Louise81Louise81 Posts: 2Member Listener
    Hi Rebecca
    Thank you for your reply, im not 100% sure on what caused it but we are putting it down to a stomach bug he had for about 5 weeks. He had to send samples off and tried different medication to try and sort it but they made him ill. Since then he just got worse, he felt the councillors were not helping and they were making him feel worse, and he felt they weren't listening to him. I feel alot better now with your advise and ill wait till hes ready to see someone. Thank you so much for your help
    Louise
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    I find that many people feel that they are not listened too and sometimes it is a case of finding the right person to support you. Try and encourage him to talk to you. Make sure he knows that you are there to help him and to support him and that you will help him with whatever he needs.
    Rebecca
  • rachy1108rachy1108 Posts: 4Member Listener
    Hello Rebecca 
    Ive been looking for help for so many months now regarding my husband. My husband was diagnosed with schizophrenia 12 years ago, and has recently been taken of pip as he failed the assessment  we put in for mandatory reconsideration and also got declined there. So we have appealed to a tribunal. I sent the paper work of to the tribunal in January but im finding it so hard to get evidence for his mental health has this mental health team does not seem to be helping at all i must of phoned them several time to get evidence of his problems but there's always some excuse they give me that they cant help with the evidence. Also we have just found out from Universal credit that my husbands  money for Limited capability for work and work-related activity has also been stopped they have not given us any acknowledgement or no warning of this stopping. We are just lost my husband is now suffering from panic attacks and im on the edge of having a mental breakdown with depression and anxiety. I thought i could do this on my own and deal with my problems by myself without my husband knowing as i know he cant deal with it but i cant i just dont know where to go and who ti turn to anymore and im really hoping you can help as i feel im getting pulled into the darkest hole and theres no coming back from it and im worried for my husband as well as iam his carer  

    Thankyou
    Rachael
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @rachy1108

    I am so sorry to hear about the issues you are having with both the DWP assessments and the metal health team who are there to support you and your husband. I would love to be able to give you the answer that will enable you to get everything resolved but from the experience I have with the DWP the process is long and slow and appears to be very unfair. There are some threads relating to benefits and Scope has a great advice page that I recommend you read, if you haven't already.

    I can hear how worried you are about him and how this is also impacting on you and your mental health. It is really important that you look after yourself and access support if you need it. You can't be there for your husband and support him in the way he needs it if you are suffering yourself.

    Rebecca 
  • Pippa_ScopePippa_Scope Posts: 4,907Administrator Scope community team
    Hi @rachy1108, so sorry to hear about your circumstances. Just to add to the above, it might be a good idea to visit Citizens Advice for face to face advice and see if they can provide support: you can find your local branch by searching their website. Please do keep in touch- as Rebecca says, it's important to look after yourself and I hope you can find the support you need.
  • alisha22alisha22 Posts: 177Member Talkative
    Hello Rebecca, I just wanted to know I have been referred to a mental health team after been passed from pillow to post. The doctor at this mental health place has given me 25mg quietiapine to help me sleep, they don't help much so he has up the dosage. I sometimes have some sleep and at times I don't. What I wanted to know was what about my other issues regarding my mental health, I just wanted to get them to speak to me on a regular basis but it seems they just focused on the sleep pattern, is this normal practice. Plead advice.
  • crippscripps Posts: 389Member Chatterbox
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @alisha22

    Sleep is really important when it comes to mental health and practitioners do focus on sleep and sleep patterns a lot, it can help them understand where you are and an improved sleep pattern and improve your mental health, but having said that it is also really important that you feel listened to and if there are things that you want to talk about they should allow you to do that. 
    Perhaps the next time you have an appointment you could try explaining that you feel that they are too focused on your sleep and ask them to explain how they think that getting your sleep patterns sorted they feel this will help?

    Rebecca
  • sarahD80sarahD80 Posts: 7Member Listener

    Hi, I'm Rebecca. 

    I am a qualified hypnotherapist and a counselor volunteering for ChildLine and the NSPCC. I work to support children and young people with a variety of mental health needs. I have spent 20 years working within local government in both social housing and social services supporting people who are vulnerable and with complex needs. I am a keen advocate of supporting survivors of domestic abuse. 


    Ask me questions about Mental Health now.

    Hi Rebecca. Can you help me please. 
    I Suffer with depression and severe anxiety. I've also got very high blood pressure and suffer with panic attacks. I also suffered 13 years of domestic violence and abuse from a previous partner who also raped me more than several times. I won't go anywhere on my own at all. I'm in a right mess and really don't know in witch way to turn or go. I'm skipping meals constantly in really low mood. Lacking in any form of motivation. And really really don't like asking at all for help. As I think I can take the world on. But I know that I can't. It's my benifits I've been on E.s.a. For nearly 2and a half years. But all I get is £114:54 a fortnight no more that's it. And I more than struggling. I have no other one to turn to as my family is a complete waste of time. And have not bothered with for the last 5 years.the only family member I look up to and that's my uncle whom I live with. And had been a good support for me. But it fells as if I'm screaming and shouting at the top of my voice but no one is listening to me. I'm just the girl who everyone has forgotten about and don't deserve no help or support in life. I'm the girl who carries a big smile on my face.and pretends everything is OK. When really it's killing me and behind the closed door I brake my heart everyday saying why me. Everything has got on top of me. And fells like a burden i can't get rid of. Nor have I got anyone else to help me. I feel isolated, constantly numb and alone. But it's not just just me I deal with its my uncle to has he's got learning difficulties and disability's.
    And I could never burden him with my worries. So can you please please please help me as I'm at a complete loss
    Yours faithfully 
    Miss sarah j Davies 

    Many thanks in this.
  • debbiedo49debbiedo49 Posts: 2,328Member Brian Blessed
    Hi, my 18 year old son has suffered from reactive depression in the past as a youngster and he is fine now. However, he has fond from a very smiley happy boy with infinite facial expression and bags of confidence to a young man with a very blank face and monotone voice most of the time. It’s become an issue from time to time at school and college as people say they think he is unenthusiastic or bored or other negative expressions some times. When he attended Camhs initially they suggested he may be on the autistic spectrum but I disagreed as did my son. He says he is happy and doesn’t know why he is like this. Is it normal for a teenage boy to have issues with facial expression and monotone voice?  He is an online gamer fan. He can use his expressions and tones but he has a habit of being monotone. As a mum this worries me. Please advise.


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  • ApplepearmommabearApplepearmommabear Posts: 5Member Listener
    Hi everyone, Iv`e been on esa since august, had my assessment in September then on 10th Dec 2017 received a phone text saying I didn`t have to send more sick notes as I had qualified for esa but no letter, by the 22 Dec I decided to phone, the gentleman that I spoke with told me that I had been put in wrag and was very apologetic as I hadn`t received a letter explaining this and they had made this decision 11th nov, being worried that I had now past the month in which I could ask for a reconsideration. After the  Christmas holidays I phoned again explained that I had never had a letter and that I had to phone up to find out about the outcome and asked if I could put in for an MR, she agreed and gave me a date when to have it in, I also asked for my medical report, Two weeks later the report came, I was heartbroken and reduced to tears reading the inaccuracy and dishonesty the assessor had wrote about me, my name was on the report but it wasn`t about me!!After sending a 5 page letter why I think I should be placed in the support group and also sending more evidence with a letter from my doctor,  After 3 months I finally received a letter saying "You indicated that you may be providing further information ( Which I did) but however as of today no information has been received".  I got the 15 points but she said I was put in the limited capability for work related activity. The letter also says that further  evidence will be taken into consideration when it is received.  What I would like to know is do I start a Tribunal or if I send more evidence to DWP will it hold off the one month with the tribunal? Thank you

    Read more at https://community.scope.org.uk/profile/applepearmommabear#temcFXARjjURqesj.99
  • frecklesfreckles Posts: 167Member Talkative
    Have you had your M.R. decision letter back yet
  • SajaSaja Posts: 5Member Listener
    Hi @RebeccaMHadvisor,
    I’m new to this group, and I would be grateful if someone can guide me through. My brother is 23 years old, has mild cerebral pulsy with mild learning difficulties. We’ve been in the UK for about 5 years, and he’s struggling to fit in or learn. Because he arrived old to the uk, he didn’t go to the school, so we tried to enroll him to different colleges and private courses but he always fail. Last tutor said he can’t stay still for a short time in one place, and has very weak concentration on lessons even with providing him special tutor who volunteered to be with him, as he lose his concentration very quickly especially when he hold his phone. He couldn’t make any friends although he love mixing with people but his problem that he doesn’t know how to interact socially. I have spoken to the mental health service if someone can help him as he’s really willing to receive help but they said this’s not the right service for him. I would really appreciate if anyone can suggest where is the right place to get support for him.
    kind regards,
    Saja

  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative

    Hi @sarahD80

    Thank you so much for feeling that you can open up to me and the Scope Community, they really are a supportive group of people.

    I can hear that you are finding things really difficult and you are struggling.

    You really do deserve to get help and support with how you are feeling both physically and mentally and the first step is opening up to someone and admitting that you are struggling and you have done that hear. This first step can really be the hardest step to take.

    I do understand your reasons for not wanting to open up to your Uncle but talking about your worries isn’t a burden, it is part of building relationships with people.

    I can hear that you feel that you don’t like asking for help, we hear that all the time. Asking for help isn’t a failure and it isn’t a burden, it is part of being human. We can’t all be strong all of the time and sometimes we have to let others help us. There are different support networks out there like the Scope community and also Mind - https://www.mind.org.uk/. You can also access help and support from Domestic Abuse networks and Women's Aid are amazing https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

    You can also speak with your GP but I know that sometimes this can be a bit frightening and daunting, but they are they to make sure that you get that help and support that you need and deserve.

    Rebecca


  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative

    Hi @debbiedo49

    I can hear that you are worried about your son and the negative comments I think are very unhelpful. I am wondering how it is that your son came to be supported by CAHMS. It is very difficult for me to give any definitive advice but from what you have said, this could be a sign of aspergers or it could be a typical 18 year old who likes to play video games. I am wondering if perhaps a conversation with CAHMS might be useful as to their reasoning for their assessment? Does your son still attend CAHMS or have/need any other support from other agencies?

    Rebecca


  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @Applepearmommabear

    I am really sorry but benefits isn't something I know that much about but it is something that is discussed at length within the community and may people do  and have struggled with their assessments.. There is a section with the forum that you might find useful.

    I can hear that this is causing you at lot of anxiety and stress and I am wondering what support you have around you to help you cope with this?

    Rebecca
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Posts: 99Community advisor Talkative
    Hi @Saja

    Welcome to the community. I can hear that you are worried about your brother and him struggling to be able to fit in.

    There are a couple of websites that you can try that will be able to give you some ideas and suggestions on support groups and networks for both you and your brother. The first is CP Teens UK and the second Cerebral Palsy Org

    Hope this is a help to you both

    Rebecca
  • mia63101mia63101 Posts: 18Member Whisperer
    Hi, My husband of over 30 years is in the process of sorting paperwork ready for when he leaves.
    I have not been in charge of the financial things since my life changed , although I try to buy my own things. I am now in a wheelchair. I used to be social, active, ride horses and had run my own business, while bringing up the children too. It was a good life and we were very happy. Now, he is in control of everything from grocery shopping to paying the bills. He has become mr Nasty, then mr Nice, I hardly know which I am getting.
    i think he has someone else. We are quite remote where we live, so I do not see anyone at all except the postman! He works during the week. I have to ask him to take me out on a weekend to maybe have a lunch, or for us both to go shopping of an evening.
    sometimes he will and it is lovely, other times he causes an argument out of nowhere. He used to be so loving, and caring,now he looks irritated and turns the tv up when I have to use my nebilser, yet starts refilling my meds pots up when people are here, and reminding me to take them.
    He says he stopped caring a long time ago, and then runs me into the ground and says really nasty things. Then when I can’t seem to take any more, he says (this morning) i’ll get you well again, then I’ll leave.
    He seems to give the impression to all outside, and our families that he is a caring husband, looking after his ill wife, but no-one knows what he is really like. I don’t think they would believe me.
    I am at a loss to know what to do anymore.

  • frecklesfreckles Posts: 167Member Talkative
    Firstly in sickness and in health should apply to him yes i get it its going to be tough for both of you have you no family or close friends you can confide in
  • debbiedo49debbiedo49 Posts: 2,328Member Brian Blessed
    My dad passed away suddenly a week ago and I’m really devastated. My son has suffered from reactive depression in the past and I’m terrified that I am going to miss the signs starting up. I’m suffering mental health issues myself. 


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  • aashworth81aashworth81 Posts: 11Member Listener
    Hi, my name is Alex Ashworth and I'm relatively new to SCOPE. I suffer with schizophrenia and depression and over the past year I have finally managed to secure part time work as a local gardener which really helps and aides my mental health. I'm wondering though, in time is it possible to experience a partial or closest to recovery as I believe it could be achieved? Let me know. Thank you.
  • dazmyerdazmyer Posts: 2Member Listener
    Hi Rebecca hows you 
    Hope your good 
    And Rebecca I'm worried about my pip benefit review form 
    And nothing has changed but my paranoid personality disorder 
    Is getting worse but it need help to put it in to words as I'm rubbish at forms 
    And I'm praying yous can help I'm in Edinburgh 
  • debbiedo49debbiedo49 Posts: 2,328Member Brian Blessed
    Is Rebecca answering these posts please ?


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  • supersue21supersue21 Posts: 2Member Listener
    Hello my partner is still receiving DLA when will he be put on PIP
  • wenlockwenlock Posts: 9Member Listener
    Hi supersue21.
    My son was taken off DLA and put on PIP when his award was ending (had to re-apply after this date). check to see if  there’s an  end date to your partner’s  claim Hun. It may be different for your partner but to be sure call the DLA department.  
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