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Escort services for disabled people?

drakeydrakey Posts: 6Member Listener
edited January 16 in Dating and relationships
I am a 52 year old man with cerabal palsy I have recently moved into my own home.I am very shy about it but would like a sexual experience maybe by an escort as no strings attached.Does anyone have advice about any services I could  access for this to happen

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  • Sam_ScopeSam_Scope Posts: 6,030Administrator Scope community team
    Hi @drakey

    Welcome to the community. Whilst I agree that disabled people should have the same opportunities as everyone else (and that includes sex) what you're suggesting worries me. There are lots of legal and safeguarding aspects that need to be considered very carefully. This website is not for selling services like that.
     
    Instead I would encourage you to find out more about charities already working in this area. Perhaps you could financially support them instead?
     
    Here are some suggestions:
  • drakeydrakey Posts: 6Member Listener
    I don't now what you are implying ?I am looking for help as I have very little chance in that department am &  I hope a good person, and have & would not hut a fly so don't now what your àplalying about me.
  • TopkittenTopkitten Posts: 826Member Chatterbox
    There are options for this but it may not be safe for you to use them depending on how your disability affects you.

    SHADA appears not to be responding.

    Outsiders is for dating but is worth considering.

    SWAD is for ME/CFS sufferers so is probably not appropriate.

    Enhance the UK may be your best option.

    Whichever option you choose this tends to be an expensive method of accessing a simple need so do be prepared. There are also ladies who will take advantage of the situation because their need is simply money.

    Whatever you do you need to be careful.

    TK
    I am here to kick ass and chew bubblegum... and I am all out of bubblegum -- They Live 80 something cult film.
  • thespicemanthespiceman Posts: 2,469Member, Community champion Brian Blessed
    Hello @drakey How are you?  I understand you difficulty.  I live on my own but I would not want to look at this sort of thing.  I had a friend who I found out was paying for this sort of service.  I was not only shocked but my morals kicked in.  I would rather have a range of things to do and activities where I can meet people.  This is a dangerous path my friend.  I remember him going broke, having to be evicted.  The rest is history.  I am old fashioned gentleman and know will find someone one day.  Please can I ask why are you shy.  I am only aware of my own problems and do know that I have spoken to a counsellor about dating the issues around that.  I would in my opinion look at talking to someone who can support you with your confidence.  I have been on this forum that helps.  Lots of reassurance and support.  I would worry about myself if I ended up going down the route of this dangerous immoral path.  You never know who is coming to meet you and the people.  Some of them are have dubious connections I know that what happened to one of my friends I had.  I hope and pray that you can find a solution.  This is not the answer in my opinion.  Please take care  Nice to talk to you.
  • jamey77jamey77 Posts: 10Member Listener
    Drakey...you shoukd check out tlc trust.or sexual advocate services..Helen mirren is a trustee and supporter of disabled persons having the right to have sexual experiences and it is not immoral just a basic human right to feel touched and special...it is not wrong with the right sort of service where most of the service providers have a history in social care, nursing or mental health and physical disability...you are not committing some sort of sin by having needs and not all service providers are cash grabbing non emotional nasty individuals...please check services available in your area on tlc trust website xxxx
  • thespicemanthespiceman Posts: 2,469Member, Community champion Brian Blessed
    Hello @jamey77   Please can I add I am human like everyone else.  I agree all of us should be comfortable in our own bodies and have the joys of sexual experiences.  I only said about being immoral because it is paying for a service.  Prostitution is a what it is in the end.    I am aware of the rights of the disabled basic human right to feel touched and loved.  We all want that and it is not a sin.  That is not what this guy is saying.  Wants a escort service.  I hope you understand.  It is my view and opinion and my Christian values
  • jamey77jamey77 Posts: 10Member Listener
    Hello spiceman. ..no harm in having your own views, opinions and beliefs...I have my own as does the gentleman who requested some support.
    I myself have faith in god but also am not so naive to believe that many persons in society for whatever reason will meet someone they genuinely fancy and love based on a waiting game.
    If the person your paying for services genuinely cares about the service they offer and are not there to 'rip vulnerable people off' then I believe there is no harm to offer human comfort to another who may not experience that true warmth otherwise...jesus was very close to mary magdalene...she was a good woman not a rogue...jesus did not judge...let the guy find what he needs to feel special and focused on for a while...we all need that xxx
  • TopkittenTopkitten Posts: 826Member Chatterbox
    Never understood why people think this sort of thing is immoral. No, they are not prostitutes any more, that's very old fashioned. They are escorts and most are clean and tested regularly. You must find the right way to find them though as there are always some that are not to be trusted. I see them when I can afford it as I do not wish to put some woman through the future I must go through. It will destroy her. I am still a man though and, especially as I have been in relationships before and have children, do not wish to never feel that closeness to some one. Even my therapist thought it was a good idea for me to meet one.

    I would say research a lot before you meet anyone this way and, if you have little experience of sex, research that too. Quite a few escorts will treat you better if you treat them well, if you know what I mean.

    TK
    I am here to kick ass and chew bubblegum... and I am all out of bubblegum -- They Live 80 something cult film.
  • jamey77jamey77 Posts: 10Member Listener
    Well said TOP KITTEN
    .drakey...research and find someone who will offer you what you need with respect, dignity and non judgement..I cannot imagine a life without close physical human contact, it is a must for all to experience, it's not all about sex, that's part of it yes but feeling alive and free is the most fulfilling aspect of pleasing another human who otherwise may not have those experiences. 
    GOOD LUCK DRAKEY, I hope you find what you seek...xxx
  • drakeydrakey Posts: 6Member Listener
    Please some  one can you tell me to actress theses service in my
    City of Norwich 
  • glenmayersglenmayers Posts: 6Member Listener
    Drakey I’m new to this community and have read some of the feedback. You must filter out the judgements and criticisms although all seem well intentioned. The advice given is right,you must be careful, do your research there are good escort agencies out there. The most important thing is that you are comfortable with your decision  and reasonings and yes everyone is entitled to their opinions but do what is right for you. I myself intend to use these services after my own contemplation and research. My very best wishes go to you and the men and women that provide these services.
  • glenmayersglenmayers Posts: 6Member Listener
    Drakey haven’t tried booking yet but most sites let you search by city and region for specific escorts and escorts can be found through agencies while some are independent and some even advertise that their services are for the disabled. So it’s down to you taking your time and doing your research. Goo luck.
  • TopkittenTopkitten Posts: 826Member Chatterbox
    I am not going to give specific information regarding who or what I use on an open forum where some object to the practice.

    Do research online. Find out what is and is not legal. Look into anyone providing such services specifically for the disabled. Look through this site for other similar posts (there are some). If you cannot manage to do these things then you shouldn't be considering using such services because it is VERY expensive and you could easily get taken advantage of.

    TK
    I am here to kick ass and chew bubblegum... and I am all out of bubblegum -- They Live 80 something cult film.
  • jamey77jamey77 Posts: 10Member Listener
    Drakey...some very good advice above..I myself have an extensive history of working with physical disability and brain injured clients and am involved in tlc trust although not in your area.
    You do need to find someone who only offers this sort of service to people who are in need of these specialised services and not a general escort who may not have the understanding or knowledge that some of the tlc and other specialised sites offer....although I have noted that some of the women and men on these sites do other types of client too..find someone who only works to help improve and offer services to those who woukd otherwise not have those experiences....it does cost more money because it is a lot more involved than just meeting someone for a sexual encounter...check out your local services and I'm sure there will be someone suitable...I can't really offer direct advice on this open forum as I find that sometimes people are quite judgemental of this type of absolutely necessary service.
    I worked in social sevices for many years and there is a big demand for persons finding those special encounters....I wish you good luck and happiness xxxx
  • drakeydrakey Posts: 6Member Listener
    Jamèy77,ýou sounď like a nice careing Lady could you help me in the
    Sèx ďepartment how ever far away you are,l livè in Norwich, 
    Please can you help me out. 
  • jamey77jamey77 Posts: 10Member Listener
    Drakey
    My advice would be to give me your email and I can offer you some options that may assist you with your requirements x
    J
  • jamey77jamey77 Posts: 10Member Listener
    Thanks
    I will send you a message and advice.x
    J
  • TopkittenTopkitten Posts: 826Member Chatterbox
    @drakey why do you feel unable to find out for yourself? I stated clearly that this can be a difficult area and fraught with difficulties. At the end of the day you will have to meet such people alone and, if you cannot even cope with discovery, I don't see how you will cope with that.

    I don't mean to be harsh but you really need to understand what you are getting yourself into before going this route.

    TK
    I am here to kick ass and chew bubblegum... and I am all out of bubblegum -- They Live 80 something cult film.
  • drakeydrakey Posts: 6Member Listener
    Thanks but you  don't know me,I just need  a bit of help & a lot of support,
    I'll wait for advice for Jamey 77 she sounds very nice &understanding, 
  • jamey77jamey77 Posts: 10Member Listener
    Drakey
    I can assure you that the advice I can offer is genuine and offered with no intention to promote any such service to those who feel it is not right for them.
    I have sent you an email, I hope you find it helpful.
    Jamey
  • drakeydrakey Posts: 6Member Listener
    Hi Jamey can you send me that email address again  accident deleted it,
    Thank you ,
  • Metalbum2012Metalbum2012 Posts: 1Member Listener
    Hi, I hope you have found what you are looking for Drakey, I personally use an Escort agency. 
    I like you, am shy, but with the right agency and girls who are interested in me and not the money have a great time.
    If you want the name of agency- let me know it's SE London, Greenwich based.  
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