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can i use disabled toilets

deb74deb74 Member Posts: 617 Pioneering
edited May 2018 in Coffee lounge
i can walk but because of my arthritis i need to use a grab rail to get on and off the toilet. i have always used the ordinary toilets but now i struggle unless there is a grab rail. i was wondering if it is ok to use the disabled toilets. 

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  • thespicemanthespiceman Member Posts: 6,408 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @deb74 Thank you for your post. I do not see why not.

    Understand your concern but if  finding hard to cope then of course.

    Understand I have disability of hands, fingers missing. Walk and struggle a lot but always use disabled toilet.

    Have concern if you did not and you fell or had trip or accident.

    Have to be safe as all of our community should be.

    Take care

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  • deb74deb74 Member Posts: 617 Pioneering
    thanks spiceman. i know that i am actually classed as disabled but when i think about using disabled toilets i feel guilty and end up using the usual toilets. 
  • debbiedo49debbiedo49 Member Posts: 2,906 Disability Gamechanger
    That’s just silly you can have invisible illness and need to use disabled toilet. Just like disabled parking bays or seats on the bus. Dive in. 
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  • deb74deb74 Member Posts: 617 Pioneering
    that's true. i am just having to accept that my health is getting worse. i was talking to my dad about mobility aids a couple of weeks ago and he said it is about time i stopped being so pig headed and got the equipment i need to make my life easier. 
  • debbiedo49debbiedo49 Member Posts: 2,906 Disability Gamechanger
     I know exactly how you feel I’m the same. I’m coming to terms with my diagnosis and it’s impact 
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  • geordiangelgeordiangel Member Posts: 3 Listener
    I'm disabled. have been since 2002.. but apart from.struggling to walk most of the time. you can't see it all. I use disabled parking bays. at first I'd only use them on my really bad days as I couldn't get out of the car in a normal space. the toilets I never used. until more recently. since my conditions have worsened.. do what you feel comfortable with Deb.. don't feel guilty.. ive came accross some really awful people in my early days.. but the facilities are not just there for wheel chsir users.. they are there for people like us too.. x
  • Jean EveleighJean Eveleigh Member Posts: 87 Pioneering
    I would have no issue with you using the disable toilet at all under the circumstances you have described - if you are overly concerned carry a folding walking stick with you so you can show it to people who make you feel bad on entering/exiting the loo.
  • thefaintheartedthefainthearted Member Posts: 6 Connected
    Seriously there should be no guilt...youhave a disability which you can make easier by using those facilities...no gulit ..use them..
  • feirfeir Member Posts: 388 Pioneering
    Able bodied people are allowed to use them. There are no restrictions on who can use a disabled toilet and anyone can buy a radar key also.
  • WaylayWaylay Member Posts: 888 Pioneering
    If it would make your life easier, then use them! They're there for disabled people, and you are disabled.
  • deb74deb74 Member Posts: 617 Pioneering
    i suppose i don't feel disabled. 
  • deb74deb74 Member Posts: 617 Pioneering
    thanks feir. i didn't know that.
  • deb74deb74 Member Posts: 617 Pioneering
    thanks everyone. it is about time i started to do things to make my life easier. that includes using a toilet with grab rails next to it. at home i hold onto the windowsill which is next to the toilet but in a public toilet i do struggle.
  • thespicemanthespiceman Member Posts: 6,408 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @deb74 One final point all excellent comments. This is the one issue I do think we all of us see our selves as a member of this community but also more importantly.

    Recognising you have a disability I know it is hard to identify being disabled.

    Thing is life especially time goes so quickly . My concern is what I always say if I do not do these things to help me adapt now.

    What happens if the support is not there. Especially trying to get the things you need or adaptions the prices go up.

    Limited availability. Some one gets the support you should have had.

    In my younger days my family stopped and prevented me doing things and certain aspects that now I could have done with.


    Remember all charities, councils have no money in the sense budgets are tightened as overburdened, so what you need to have go for it.

    Please I sure all of us have felt guilty big issues are now the No factor. If you say no too many times. When turning to people for help saying yes. Who is going to help you.

    Believe am a proud old fashioned gentleman from a long time ago when manners and polite ness and care and concern were about and helpful and all employees had to do their job.

    All changed now sorry even me has to admit need to tell what is wrong. No one is going to help me unless I help my self.

    So please stop feeling guilty we all have those feelings.

    But if you got to go.  Got go as an gentleman of a certain age see a toilet to powder my nose. Have to go.  No matter what.  Understand not hanging around with screwed up face and crossed legs worrying about a toilet.

    If people complain so what.  At the end of the day it is my disability.  I have accepted the way I am.  After a constant battle.  With my demons. Let it go and I do often in a disabled toilet lol.
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  • debbiedo49debbiedo49 Member Posts: 2,906 Disability Gamechanger
    You are not responsible for what others think and do, only yourself. I included lpcatoons of good public toilets usually single ones or disabled ones on my route. Local councils have an obligation to provide them. I’m lucky where I am I can use them where I live. Otherwise I wouldn’t go out at all. 
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  • feirfeir Member Posts: 388 Pioneering
    You're welcome @deb74.

    Public toilets are public, some have been adapted so disabled people can use them also. So even if you have a hidden disability nobody should be acting like you can't use the toilet anyway. And you definitely don't have to justify using one or explain yourself.
  • jdtaylorukjdtayloruk Member Posts: 6 Listener
    The purchasing of a radar key is commonly tight with proof of Disabiltiy needed in some areas due to abuse by homeless etc. This is reasonable but I’m noticing a few places not using them anymore which can be an issue if you find it very hard to use stairs to the main toilets.
  • WaylayWaylay Member Posts: 888 Pioneering
    Before my disability, I broke my ankle. I kept using non-disabled loos, even though there were usually stairs, and they were do small that organising me, my cast, and 2 crutches was really difficult. At some point I thought, "Wait. I'm essentially temporarily disabled. Screw it, I'm going to use those loos."
  • deb74deb74 Member Posts: 617 Pioneering
    good idea. it must be murder going up an down stairs on crutches. 
  • deb74deb74 Member Posts: 617 Pioneering
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