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Is it my own fault for having scoliosis?

Hello, at 17 or 18 years I had underweight at only 55 kg for a year as a male. Then at 19 years they diagnosed me with a 20° S curve scoliosis. I too may have been sitting incorrectly for longer periods of time.

Is that why I developed the scoliosis? Is it my fault? Could it have been entirely prevented if I had normal weight and good posture? Maybe I only had 5° curvature and through my misdeeds it worsened up to 20°? Is there anything I did wrong to worsen the curve? I just want to know if it's my fault because I can't forgive myself for getting a scoliosis and I feel guilty and shameful.


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  • Ami2301Ami2301 Posts: 3,801Member, Community champion Brian Blessed
    Hi @hazard6 sorry to hear you feel this way.

    Does your doctor know what caused it?

    I think we all go through a stage where we are adamant that the cause of conditions is our fault. I know it's easier said than done but try not to think this is your fault.
    You're a fighter. Look at everything you've overcome. Don't give up now!
  • hazard6hazard6 Posts: 9Member Listener
    I asked my doctor and my orthopaedic and they don't know if it's my fault and if I worsened it because it's an idiopathic scoliosis. But I want to know from the internet... did my underweight and posture cause and worsen scoliosis?
  • Ami2301Ami2301 Posts: 3,801Member, Community champion Brian Blessed
    Unfortunately we are not medical professionals.. I understand how you feel as I convinced myself that I was to blame for my conditions, I also resorted into searching endlessly on the Internet to prove that it was my fault. I spoke to my GP how I felt and they said it is completely normal to feel this way. It's part of the process to accepting our conditions.
    You're a fighter. Look at everything you've overcome. Don't give up now!
  • hazard6hazard6 Posts: 9Member Listener
    If anyone knows whether or not I caused and worsened my scoliosis and if it's my fault, please tell me.
  • Ami2301Ami2301 Posts: 3,801Member, Community champion Brian Blessed
    Have you spoke to your GP about feeling this way?
    You're a fighter. Look at everything you've overcome. Don't give up now!
  • hazard6hazard6 Posts: 9Member Listener
    No, I just want some answers. I can't stop worrying.
  • Ami2301Ami2301 Posts: 3,801Member, Community champion Brian Blessed
    I strongly advise you to speak to your GP about how you are feeling, I understand that you would like answers but unfortunately there are just some things that cannot be explained
    You're a fighter. Look at everything you've overcome. Don't give up now!
  • Pippa_ScopePippa_Scope Posts: 5,858Member Brian Blessed
    Hi @hazard6, thank you for sharing this with us. It's clear that you're feeling anxious about this and I'm so sorry to hear that you're suffering.

    Even for medical professionals, it can be difficult to determine what specifically causes somebody's long-term condition: sometimes there isn't a direct cause either. I know it's difficult, and often we just want answers- I'm sure many others here on the community will be able to relate! Instead of focussing on only the cause, it might be best to concentrate on making the most of your daily life and making sure you have the support you need. Do you have any support in place at the moment?

    I also agree with Ami that speaking to your GP about how you're feeling could be beneficial. If you feel that you need to talk to somebody in the meantime, here are some NHS helplines that may be useful.
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