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thespicemanthespiceman Posts: 5,355Community champion Disability Gamechanger
Hello my friends and every body. Thoughts are today for those on their own on this day.

Want to say you are not alone.  Having spent so many Christmas Days on my own it is becoming the like any other day.

You have to make the day your own.  Think of positive thoughts.

Make and do something to maintain your wellbeing.  Have music on not Christmas ones but anything stirring, up beat.

Plan a good start to the day. Have a good breakfast. Relaxing bath or shower.  Meal times and make them enjoyable. Sitting eating with  a CD on or the Radio helps mentally.  Have coping methods and strategies that make you think positivity.

After all this is only one day of 365.  Use the time to do other things.  Understand and maybe not to every one choice. House work, minor chores.  Got loads of washing to put out.  Do puzzles or word games.  Have a walk out if you feel like it.

Put the TV on and look for programmes that you feel you can enjoy. Not Christmas . There are other options.  

I am watching Life of Mammals on The Yesterday Channel.  Fills up the afternoon.

Listen to the radio maybe.

I am always here on this forum on this day. Have emotions , feelings. Write them down speak to me. I will listen to you.

Be a friend.  You do not have to be alone this time. We are a community.

Care and share.



  • thespicemanthespiceman Posts: 5,355Community champion Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @weaver Thank you for kind words.  Much appreciated. 

    Look forward  to helping and advising your good self.  In the years to come. You are part of our community.  Care and share

    Pleasure to have met you.

    Take care.

  • crackercracker Posts: 305Member Pioneering
    @spiceman, you always comfort and advise. I have benefited from your posts and read them all.

    Thank you for being such a support.
  • easyeasy Posts: 84Member Courageous
    Hi spiceman, Today I was feeling ill and sorry for myself but I read this post and now I feel so much better. I am very thankful I have 2 wonderful children who are very good to me and look after me. I had a lovely Christmas day with my  grandchildren. When I read this I remembered and felt so grateful. 
     Thank you.  
  • Pippa_ScopePippa_Scope Posts: 5,856Member Disability Gamechanger
    What a lovely thread! 
  • thespicemanthespiceman Posts: 5,355Community champion Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @easy thank you for kind words.  I wrote that because we as a community need to reach out to those who find the periods of our life. That should be joyful or celebration. Instead full of sadness of loneliness.

    Want to say if you need some one to listen be a friend.

    I am around just a gentleman happy to chat and be supportive. Anything you wish to.

    I apologise sometimes if I reply late.  Try and get to you quickly much as I can.

    Been a bad week for me mentally and physically. Caught a cold which with my previous health issues.  Take it out of me mentally and physically. 

    Thank you for my friends of the community for supporting me. Love you all.

    Sending me messages of positivity, warmth and kindness.

    They know who they are. Thank you.

    On the mend.   Slowly.

    Please take care.


  • telscopetelscope Posts: 37Member Connected
    I have epilepsy, I live on my own & feel self-conscious doing odd things around my flat & going out. I do have a support worker for certain jobs that I cannot do for myself, like ironing & doing the shopping, because I cannot drive myself anywhere. I started living on my own when I kept on turning down for new jobs after being made redundant many years ago, but showing my self-consciousness, I still haven't got the attitude of the employers thinking I can do work on my own accord. If I want to go for a walk in the summer I just go when the timing & the weather is fine.
  • DK1DK1 Posts: 5Member Listener
    such encouragement of strong with the independent mind is what we need all our disabled guys to do. thank you so much for living such credit exemplary lives which we need to follow. with love for your independent stand.
  • newbornnewborn Posts: 326Member Pioneering
    Hallo spiceman. And other readers.

  • thespicemanthespiceman Posts: 5,355Community champion Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @telscope Thank you for sharing.  I do know what is important is learning and adapting to new life skills.

    Remember success comes in cans not cannots.

    One piece of useful advice I do . Is to write down the instructions to every day tasks.  Use a diary read and plan a task . Make time for it make a favourite sandwich. Do the task and the sandwich the treat.

    House work and associated cleaning have a lot of CD's . Many of them Motown and Northern Soul.  All helps.

    Such as the complexities and confusion I get from certain appliances like washing machines.

    Doing my recipes itemised. Even my on line shopping.   Plan and have a stocklist, checklist easier to do on line. Saving money .

    Have you tried that may I ask?

    Could be helpful to you.

    Another suggestion is to go on line for Taxis if that helps. My Taxi firm I use is aware of the plight of many of our community. Offer incentives. Low cost fares.

    Understand in my case can not use the bus.

    Please take care.

  • thespicemanthespiceman Posts: 5,355Community champion Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @newborn   How are you?  Have not spoken to you for a long time.

    Always here to catch up.

    Take care.

  • debbiedo49debbiedo49 Posts: 2,902Member Disability Gamechanger
    I am a fibro warrior !💜♏️
  • happy91happy91 Posts: 101Member Pioneering
    This is a lovely post @thespiceman

    I am lonely and in need of support. Think I will get myself on here more often and see how I can help others. My condition has changed recently and not able to get out much. Waiting and hoping to move to better support in my living, some kind of assisted living soon. Hope I'm not waiting too long.
  • susan48susan48 Posts: 2,206Member Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @thespiceman, in a dark place right now. Just feel what is the point 

  • thespicemanthespiceman Posts: 5,355Community champion Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @happy91  Thanks for kind words . I use this forum every day as a friend and try to give others like myself.

    Some guidance, be supportive a listening ear.  

    Always worth looking at seeing how the forum can be beneficial to your well being.

    Not only all about benefits and PIP, ESA .Anything you wish to add about you or your experiences.  Share and care.

    Reasons to be Cheerful, Coffee lounge all little stories we can be sharing.  Anything to say.

    Reason put my recipes on a lot might inspire others.  Also makes the forum different .

     We all need sunshine in our lives amid the pain, heartbreak and misery. The harsh world outside who does not understand our community.

    Please if you wish to have a chat. 

    About anything please do always here.

    Take care.


  • easyeasy Posts: 84Member Courageous
    Hello spiceman I hope you are feeling alright today.
    I am well and looking forward to my holiday in the Lakes.
    Will write all about it when I return. Bfn
  • thespicemanthespiceman Posts: 5,355Community champion Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @easy great to hear from you, wishing you well.

    Thanks for asking doing OK this Monday.

    Look forward to hearing about the holiday. I am sure many members would as well.

    Please share when you return.

    Be happy to read and listen.

    Take care.

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