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Why are some people so ignorant ??

goblinqueengoblinqueen Posts: 16Member Whisperer
Has anyone else had the "we've never heard of your condition , you don't  look disabled scenerio " ? 
Having Polyradiculopathy I look ok , I'm not in a wheelchair YET , apart from my limp (which is getting worse) and the fact that walking a short distance I'm close to tears, I've a disabled rail card and more than once I've had from booking office staff "is this yours you don't look disabled" and in the case of an ignorant ******** at the local council , spoke to them about my council tax and explained I have a disability his reply well I have never heard of that you must be making it up. 
Till the diagnosis I had never heard of it either 


  • stephenjohnstephenjohn Posts: 24Member Whisperer
    Yes had the “you don’t look ill “ treatment,it’s sad that we have these people who have X ray eyes but empty heads ...think they can diagnose an illness at a glance.
  • wilkowilko Posts: 1,237Member Chatterbox
    No you don’t look disabled. You look so well, what is your disability? My reply is sometimes depending on who it is asking, is you don’t look ignorant but you are. There the prahse hidden disability 
  • goblinqueengoblinqueen Posts: 16Member Whisperer
    I find as well you sit on one of the seats on a bus for disabled people the looks you get from pensioners are disgusting , I’ve even been told to move as I’m not entitled to sit there - even showing them the bus pass they don’t like it , one woman actually sat making snide comments in a very loud voice about fake disabilities so I just tapped her on the shoulder and said I may not be perfect but at least not you 
  • thespicemanthespiceman Posts: 3,486Member, Community champion Brian Blessed
    edited January 28
    Hello @goblinqueen Pleased to meet you .

    Sorry what you are going through.  I do understand as it happening more and more.

    I still get the looks and stares as my disability is evident.  All out in the open you can see.

    Ones of the big issues problems in our community. How as a people we are judged by those who are naïve, ignorant or have the audacity to say hurtful remarks.

    Have to say the encounter you had with the council official no need for that at all.  Make a complaint I would.

    One aspect of the term disabled is just so vast wide spectrum.

    As a community champion on this forum meet so many wonderful amazing people. Who have had their illness or condition diagnosed and are often having problems of acceptance.

    Coming to terms with the new emotions, feelings they are experiencing.

    Many conditions, illness and disability that come onto the community are new to myself.

    I have to find information, support and advice to help and guide that new member.

    On the very rare occasion will have to ask the new member to tell her or himself about the condition or illness or disability.

    In the hope to give others who are similar a hand of friendship.  Be supportive.

    All I add is we as a community are here to help and be supportive. Want you feel comfortable.  

    Please ask anything. If you need some one to chat to always some one here to listen.

    I use this forum to help and support my self plus give my time and energy to members who like yourself.

    Please take care.

  • goblinqueengoblinqueen Posts: 16Member Whisperer
    Thank you for that , I did put a complaint and his manager rang on Friday to apologise , he actually told her when he was confronted that he'd never heard of such a thing so it must have been made up - would love for him to spend a day in my shoes when things are really bad , 
  • debbiedo49debbiedo49 Posts: 2,491Member Brian Blessed
    I would probably say I don't know you are you qualified to make that diagnosis?  Lol

    I am a fibrowarrior!
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