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Erectile dysfunction

Grumpy1954Grumpy1954 Posts: 44Member Courageous
Hi, my wife and I had a series of medical problems, stomach op, double detached retina op etc etc that made it impractical to have sex for some time (I'm 64, my wife is 56)
Now we are not hindered, I am having trouble getting a full erection for long enough to be of use. GP had advised cuddling, as he thinks it's a confidence issue, but said there is no medical reason I could not take viagra. I tried to sign on with a clinic at Boots but they never responded.
Not helping that I just had a minor op on my foot and that's now heavily bandaged.
Suggestions?

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  • Pippa_ScopePippa_Scope Posts: 5,856Member Disability Gamechanger
    Thanks for sharing this @Grumpy1954. Hopefully @PSHEexpert will be in touch soon!
  • atlas46atlas46 Posts: 763Community champion Pioneering
    Hi

    You should get an appointment with your GP and seek a prescription.

    They cannot decline you, provided you have no health issues.

    Please note this will be a private prescription, which the GP might charge you.

    Keep away from buying any form of medication on line, they are all crooks.
  • Mandr52Mandr52 Posts: 22Member Connected
    Hi @Grumpy 1954
    I'm not sure of you're area but the chemist up the road from me sells this over the counter, only thing I would say talk to a good pharmacist before purchasing just encase there maybe a medication conflict.
     
  • MarkmywordsMarkmywords Posts: 398Member Pioneering
    edited February 6
    Many pharmacies have an online GP division. ED is one of the conditions they will treat.
    The form-filling for the service is tedious but you can then get full strength treatments for a competitive price.
    GPs are resistant to prescribing it as it hits their budget and they see it as a non-essential "lifestyle" drug.
    Superdrug, Lloyds and others do it.
  • Grumpy1954Grumpy1954 Posts: 44Member Courageous
    Mandr52 said:
    Hi @Grumpy 1954
    I'm not sure of you're area but the chemist up the road from me sells this over the counter, only thing I would say talk to a good pharmacist before purchasing just encase there maybe a medication conflict.
     
    Yes, we have several and they can sell something Viagra plus? but it's expensive, which was why I tried to sign up for the Boots the Chemist ED clinic, but they never replied. Think the GP was mildly embarrassed as my wife was with me.
  • Grumpy1954Grumpy1954 Posts: 44Member Courageous
    Many pharmacies have an online GP division. ED is one of the conditions they will treat.
    The form-filling for the service is tedious but you can then get full strength treatments for a competitive price.
    GPs are resistant to prescribing it as it hits their budget and they see it as a non-essential "lifestyle" drug.
    Superdrug, Lloyds and others do it.
    Yes, that's why I tried to join Boots clinic, filled in a lengthy online form but got no reply. Several pharmacies here, my usual one is a small, family run one, not sure if they do this and I was too embarrassed to ask.
  • atlas46atlas46 Posts: 763Community champion Pioneering
    Hi

    I can assure you, that your GP would not be embarrassed in the least about your ED, wife present or not.

    Again, I maintain that you make an appointment with your GP, to address your ED problem.

    There are a number of medications available, that your GP would explain in detail.

    Please do not fall for other options are available, via Lloyd’s,Superdrug’s or Boots.
  • BungalowBungalow Posts: 43Member Courageous
    edited February 6
    Hi Grumpy1954 this effects so many people , but as you say its an embarrassing subject for a man.  It is more common than you realise and more men get Viagra over the counter these days so it's not the stigma it used to be , which is a good thing.
    There is also something else you can look at alongside of Viagra the ED Ring you can research it on the internet seems to have good results for a lot of peeps .  
  • Grumpy1954Grumpy1954 Posts: 44Member Courageous
    Ok, thanks all. Just to confirm, I HAVE seen my GP and tried to join an ED pharmacy clinic. Perhaps I need to see my GP again, or maybe physically call in to a pharmacy. Just need my foot to heal, will know more about that friday
  • PSHEexpertPSHEexpert Posts: 168Volunteer community advisor Pioneering
    Hello!  Sorry I'm a bit late to the chat - I have been teaching/in meetings for most of the day so I'm having to catch up now.  But basically - what they said!  Definitely speak to GP or pharmacist but PLEASE don't buy anything online - it's very risky indeed.
    - Gill 
  • Grumpy1954Grumpy1954 Posts: 44Member Courageous
    Thanks, no worries, no intention of buying online

  • PSHEexpertPSHEexpert Posts: 168Volunteer community advisor Pioneering
    @Grumpy1954 you will have to forgive me - I have come racing home like my hair's on fire because I had about 30 different notifications from the forums with questions popping up on my phone so I've gone into crisis mode!!

    This is such a common problem but one nobody likes to talk about.  I am very grateful that you've been so upfront and shared it here as I am sure others will have found this a very useful thread.  My best wishes to you both.
    - Gill 
  • wilkowilko Posts: 1,788Member Disability Gamechanger
    Thank you for bringing this subject to the fore, us men don’t like talking about health or sexual problems out of embarrassment. Mine started after being diagnosed with MS and prescribed a drug for muscle relaxation and one of the side effects stated was ED, having a understanding wife and changing your,our methods and moods of sexual activities we can both give and get satisfaction. Viagra has been talked about sujested by the MS nurse but have not gone down this route yet or considering.
  • kev64kev64 Posts: 2Member Listener
    I suffer with ed because I have Diabetes I am prescribed Viagra 50 mg by my Dr. The trouble is I find 50 is not a high enough dose for me my diabetic specialist said I can take 2 = 100 mg but I'm nervous to take this amount . What is your opinion please 
  • MarkmywordsMarkmywords Posts: 398Member Pioneering
    100mg is a recognised dose but as the process involves lowering the blood pressure, you should ask your GP.
    Also it can take anywhere between one hour and three hours to be effective.
  • Adrian_ScopeAdrian_Scope Posts: 3,036Administrator Scope community team
    Hi @kev64, to echo what Markmywords has said, I would definitely suggest you speak to your GP about it. We're not medical experts here, so it'd be best to speak to a professional.
    Senior Online Community Officer
    Scope
  • mossycowmossycow Posts: 486Community champion Pioneering
    edited September 13
    With respect to your GP... I can't see how he can rule out physical issues untill youve seen a specialist?  This need not be worrying, I don't mean there might be something sinister.. More... That the specialist will be able to look much more in detail and take all your other stuff into consideration too.

    Also... ED has many forms.... Maybe you can ejaculated but not hard enough for penetration... .maybe that's not happening... 

    Personally a, I'd say do get as much medical help as poss before just getting a blue pill. There are several medications that can help. 

    Without details... As it's not really my story to tell.... We had probs untill the right person was seen and the right medication was found. Mainly due to family history of diabetes, so that's being helped with too. 

    In the mean time we got creative... We found things that worked.. I'm maybe a different way. In some ways... That's made us frickin awesome at sex.... . The main thing I found difficult though (as a female with my male partner) was lack of feedback. Usually I knew what was being enjoyed because well... But his body wasn't doing what it used to do when happy.. 

    We got really good at talking. Partly as foreplay cos my body's so knackered that some activities are tricky... But also giving each other verbal feedback. 

    Oter thing we've had to get better at is planning full sex as he has medication he which takes 30mins to help..... Which kind fo puts he pressure on 😂... I found this really tricky... Made me nervous! We've got better at it. Partly because he's learnt it helps if he reads my flirty signals (honestly.. It's his worst nightmare.... I say signals.... What I mean is me saying 'go brush your teeth' our subtle code for go into bathroom and take the pill....) and we've learnt that it's very very very much worth it... And that if it doesn't happen his ball won't fall off or anything. 

    But, we did feel hopeless about it at one point and I forced him to the gp... And now it's really really good. So just wanted to offer hope too! 


    (so when you change your sign name from @Grumpy1954 ;    to @StillASexGod1954 ;

    We're right here with you!) 

    "I'm trying to live like a random poem I read that ended 'to bloom where we are planted"

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