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Missing the feeling of community

SeanchaiSeanchai Posts: 34Member Talkative
edited March 4 in Coffee lounge
Hi guys....I have just joined , I have just noticed this site on Facebook.  I love my community ( a small village I was born and still stay in after 64 years ) although I would not call it a small village nowadays as there are so many new houses built in the surrounding fields .( making our village 6 or 7 times larger than it was)  The feeling of a close community where everybody knew everybody else , alas, has left this  (small / large) village . Very few from the new houses seem to have time for a chat ...or even a " good morning " ...I used to nod and smile at strangers in the village but I was mostly met by blank looks ...an odd one or two would nod back on passing ...but I gave up trying .
It used to take me an hour or more to walk along through the village ( which could be done in three minutes ) but when we were a " community" everyone would stop for a chat ...maybe us younger ones ...and the not so young....would see what older person was needing a hedge cut or grass cut . I loved to volunteer for jobs in the community . Although I must admit to not being able to do so these days ( through illness and age) ...I used to get a buzz out of helping others ....I miss that 😥 ....oh ...roll on the summer .
Seanchai 

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  • SeanchaiSeanchai Posts: 34Member Talkative
    Maybe I should have mentioned about my name .... "Seanchai "..pronounced Shan-a-key.
    A seanchai is from the gaeilge for a man who used to roam from village to village carrying all the latest news ...and he would maybe sing a song for a bit of entertainment for the villagers ...if he got a penny or two for his work he would be happy ...or even a meal at someones table would suffice ....and then move on to the next village . Talking was never a problem for me but I cannot hear anything bar loud Tinnitus these days I,m afraid .Good health to all ....slan..seanchai.
  • thespicemanthespiceman Posts: 4,118Member, Community champion Brian Blessed
    Hello @Seanchai   Pleased to meet you welcome.

    Thank you for joining and sharing. Very informative and interesting post.

    I can identify what you are saying. Live in a village now no one talks .

    Not a community. Understand everything. All I can say we are a community here please free to chat, discuss anything.

    I am one of the team of community champions who guide, advise and support new members who join.

    I use this forum every day be happy to talk to you. I am always here. As I do most days spend a lot of time just being a supportive community member.

    Also use this forum to help my self and my wellbeing.

    Hope that helps you please ask if we can help and advise on anything.

    Pleasure to meet you.

    Take care.

    @thespiceman
  • steve51steve51 Posts: 5,505Member, Community champion Brian Blessed
    Hi @sean

    Good Afternoon my friend it’s great to meet you today 🙏

    I am also one of the “Community Champion’s”

    We are all here to help/assist any new members🙏🙏

    Please please have a good look 👀 around & please let me know if there’s anything that I can help you with ??

    @steve51 ;
  • SeanchaiSeanchai Posts: 34Member Talkative
    Thanks Steve...much appreciated my friend .  :)
  • SeanchaiSeanchai Posts: 34Member Talkative
    Thanks Spiceman ....I appreciate the welcome from you guys .
  • mini1mini1 Posts: 13Member Whisperer
    Hi yes it’s funny how things and people have changed I once owned a static caravan for many years everyone was nice and friendly on the site,  I’ve been in this property for 12 years everyone keeps them self to them selfs like you lucky to get a hello, We went to Ireland last year people so different over their so friendly and nice would go out they way to help you, people would stop and ask if we needed help quite a few times we got a bit lost but honestly it’s the most friendly place I’ve ever been to,  the only bad bit was our cottage was very haunted indeed, but that’s another story at some point, all the best Paul...
  • SeanchaiSeanchai Posts: 34Member Talkative
    Hi Paul ....yes indeed. I used to go over to Ireland three or four times a year . So very friendly and welcoming ( a bit like this group) ...I used to be a member of the Scottish paranormal . I have met a few spirits over the years .( I like to call them spirits as opposed to 'ghosts' ...they do not like being called ghost either....I look forward to reading your story of the haunted cottage Paul
  • mini1mini1 Posts: 13Member Whisperer
    Hi again yes I agree, honestly theses things in around the cottage were proper evil If not the devil it self,  I’ve have came across some lovely spirits in my life time, But nothing on this  scale, these things we’re chanting ever night you could feel them every where  these things tried to get into my daughter and wife, proper evil. ...Paul.... 
  • SeanchaiSeanchai Posts: 34Member Talkative
    I quite believe you Paul ....any area that is haunted by spirits should be cleansed ....and the area should be cleansed ...and the people going into and back out that area should be cleansed as well . Spirits can attach themselves to humans ( or other living creatures ) ..Years ago we visited an old ruined abbey , we done our usual cleansing but I could not concentrate on the cleansing at all ...something was interrupting my train of thought ....there was four of us that night with all our equipment...we found nothing unusual but a couple of us were rather upset (tear filled eyes and emotionall j(ust feeling so sad) ..which is not unusual in somewhere that's haunted  ...not long after our visit I started going deaf in my right ear.  ...and tinnitus took the place of my hearing ...I have now ( after 16 years of deafness and loud tinnitus in my right ear,).. went deaf in my left ear ....i now hear monks or brothers chanting in my left ear ( the doctors will tell anyone with tinnitus that any sounds they hear is from the brain and not the hearing system )...I pray that this will stop ( the chanting is usually at night after a stressful day) ....which is more days than not , trying keep focused on daily life without hearing (apart from loud tinnitus in my ear)  ..the doctors told me chanting or voices is very uncommon in tinnitus sufferers...it normally just sounds ...although some doctors have heard  that voices can be heard in a few sufferers ( my right ear is constantly loud like a jet engine just before take off ) but the chanting is like Sean Nos Male singers and did not start until I went deaf in my left ear last year  ....if you are Irish or been to Ireland a lot you will probably know what Sean Nos singing sounds like .... it is also a form of singing without music also sung in in the Scottish islands....it can be most unnerving to say the least .
    I take it you never went back to that cottage again ...I would advise staying well away Paul .
  • mini1mini1 Posts: 13Member Whisperer
    Hi, we would never go back wife had nightmares for weeks,  at some point I will tell you the full story, I did take some pictures of outside the property with something strange on one, ( the spirit s that I have seen in the past happen if some thing bad is going to accur (like a warning) ever since I was a child) usely family related. Yes I know how bad tinnitus is not nice at all, one of my friends have it not as bad as yours I told him to play soft music at night to kill the silence within the room, he said it did help him to sleep....Paul... 
  • mini1mini1 Posts: 13Member Whisperer
    I no this sounds daft but they was one good spirit they’re.  that I strongly believe was trying to warn us and help and now looking back that one spirit  did. ...Paul...
  • CockneyRebelCockneyRebel Posts: 5,041Member, Community champion Brian Blessed
    Hi @Seanchai and welcome

    I wonder if you would open a thread in the coffee lounge area and tell us more about your experiance of dealing with spirits. Many people have no idea or at best misconceptions about the paranormal


    Be all you can be, make  every day count. Namaste
  • mini1mini1 Posts: 13Member Whisperer
    Seanchai you ok ..Paul... 
  • SeanchaiSeanchai Posts: 34Member Talkative
    Hi Paul ...yep , I,m fine now ( well ...as fine as I am ever going to be ) ...last week was taken up by a lovely fella from the sensory centre ...of course he was not here all week 🙄🙂..but had a few commitments on as well . The fella from the council has helped me so much in the last week with my hearing ( or maybe it would be more precise to say " my not hearing problems " ...short story ...I have had severe tinnitus in my right , it started ear 16 years ago ...but it stole my hearing in that ear and replaced it with the sound of a jet engine just before , I have what is called a " masker" for that ear ....looks like a hearing aid but is meant to pick up some/any sound that negates my tinnitus . I have a hearing aid for my left ear and I have/ had 20 % hearing in my left ear ....and I could hear someone speak as long as there was no background noise . ..alas , lat summer at the height of the summer ( the summer that everybody was enjoying) I went completely deaf in my left ear ...even wearing my hearing aid ....not a sound . I went to the doc ( with my wife so I could explain my sudden hearing loss in my only half decent ear .I must admit it was frightening but I am getting ...well...not " used to it but more accepting that I will never hear again . The doctor said he was putting me in for an emergency scan as he had never saw anyone lose total hearing so quickly ...after specialists and scans they decided there was jo underlying problem ...apart from tinnitus and menieres...... sorry guys , a rather long short story.  A fella came out from the council two weeks ago and brough a device ( a loop and amplifier ) that goes into my TV...for the first time for ages I heard the TV ( I appreciated the subtitles but they are rather draining at times trying to follow the text on the news ...or "  the chase " as it gives the answer as well as the questions on the same page hahahaha...anyway this device allowed me to listen to the TV ( after I got the loop added to my new hearing aid. ) ...I could not thank the fella enough ....i had been told by the " experts" that it was my brain that was faulty and not my hearing .( The loop system proved it is my hearing to blame and not my brai I was over the moon that I could hear the TV for the first time since last year ...well...last week the fella came back with another couple of devices to try , he connected a microphone to the loop system and I could hear my wife's voice for the first time since last year ....o was so happy o tried not to cry when the fella was in....but I,m sure you can imagine just how happy I am hearing my wife , and being able to hear my kids and grandkids talking to me .....but the fella ( Richard) was not finished there ...he had a conversation with me when I first met him and he asked what hobbies I had ...I love my garden ...and I used to use shortwave radio and a scanner to listen to airoplanes coming in to the local airport , I could also hear the control tower with my scanner and I had it connected up with a computer to give me radar.  Well ....Richard asked me to "try this with your Samsung tablet  " ...I plugged it into the tablet and put a personal loop around my neck .....my God,  I could hear the people chatting on you tube etc.....all that in the space of a week was a bit overwhelming ....I am so grateful for Richard setting all this up ....I was overwhelmed and I could never thank that man enough ....he said he was just glad to help .....I was lost for words ...and that's not like me ....thank you Richard so much , I cannot thank you enough , I can now listen to my scanners again and my short wave and listen to the tv ...so I hope you all understand why I was not on community scope ...of course I had to reset my scanners and computers . ....thank God it's not my brain ...the scan proved there were no growths etc ...so that was grand news ...but at times I was wishing I was not here ...my eversuffereing wife trying to repeat herself to no avail ....and not being able to hear the grandchildren was a heavy load to bare ...but I am back now and I thank anyone especially Paul who wondered if I was ok ...webwerenchatting about spirits Paul....and I could not tell the doctors that it was a spirit that set off my tinnitus one night in an old ruined house not far from here  ...I would probably been locked up . If you have read this far Paul , I would just like to say that I hear Sean nos voices ( maybe I have mentioned it before paul) its a bit like monks chanting / singing in an abby  .It seems most prevalent at night after a stressful day ...but it can hit me at any time .it might or maybe not get anything to do with my past of going around old churches abbey or old houses . ...take care Paul....and thank,you for thinking about me over the last two weeks or so ....I will get banned off this site for going on and on .....but it's just how I am . ...God bless all ...i,m away and checkmsome,othernposts,inmthe community ...its so big with so many wings etc ....but,I likenthenidea pogba community that can help others, that's what drew me to this community ...I ended up here by mistake to be honest but once I read a fewnpostsmi was kind hooked to see  people helping other people with their problems ...take care and God bless ...and if anyone has any questions for me then fire ahead.I will help anyone ,if I can , its just my nature  and i always enjoy helping others looking for answers.
    I,m no expert at anything really but I have a life full of " life lessons " 🤔🙂👍
  • gaz1960gaz1960 Posts: 40Member Talkative
    Seanchai said:
    Hi guys....I have just joined , I have just noticed this site on Facebook.  I love my community ( a small village I was born and still stay in after 64 years ) although I would not call it a small village nowadays as there are so many new houses built in the surrounding fields .( making our village 6 or 7 times larger than it was)  The feeling of a close community where everybody knew everybody else , alas, has left this  (small / large) village . Very few from the new houses seem to have time for a chat ...or even a " good morning " ...I used to nod and smile at strangers in the village but I was mostly met by blank looks ...an odd one or two would nod back on passing ...but I gave up trying .
    It used to take me an hour or more to walk along through the village ( which could be done in three minutes ) but when we were a " community" everyone would stop for a chat ...maybe us younger ones ...and the not so young....would see what older person was needing a hedge cut or grass cut . I loved to volunteer for jobs in the community . Although I must admit to not being able to do so these days ( through illness and age) ...I used to get a buzz out of helping others ....I miss that 😥 ....oh ...roll on the summer .
    Seanchai 
    I've moved to a village not far from where I was before,and there's no community feeling at all. Everybody keeps themselves to themselves.  Gone are the days of the milk not taken in off the doorstep or the newspaper  still in the letterbox,and someone would notice and go and check to see if the person there was ok. 
    There must the a lot of people sitting behind closed doors looking at computer screens and looking for friends or penfriends and never actually getting to talk face to face with people day to day. Not just disabled people but people in general. 
  • SeanchaiSeanchai Posts: 34Member Talkative
    Yep...its a shame Gaz...as you say , there must be many sitting on their own and wishing they had someone to chat to  ...people in the new houses in our village want to keep themselves to themselves . That is ok if that's what they want ....but not what I was used to in the village. The daft things is they called all the new houses the same as my old terrace....but various thing like " way" "wynd" "crescent" etc and some of our mail goes to the new addresses ( I have had various important mail go " missing" such as hospital appointments etc ) ...even though the postcode is different ...pizza deliveries etc come to our house as well . Last year one day , I lifted the post ( mostly junk mail ) ...I opened each one and put it in the round file ( the bin) ...after opening about four or five more junk letters ..i opened another , it was a card  with a  £20 note inside it ....saying " happy birthday "....love from grandma...I felt terrible opening the envelope , it had my address though ( I must admit that I only checked the address after I had opened it and it was the wrong surname ) I said to my wife that would take the  the dog a walk around to the new houses and see what I could find out . I got to the same number as myself ....but it it was crescent... I saw all the birthday cards in the window  and as I approached the door I saw a small plaque with their surname on it ....so I knew it was the right house . I chapped the door and a fella in his 40's I would say ...opened the door and I said " Hi, this card came through my door ,even though  it had your name on it , it had my address ...I opened it before I noticed the name on the front of it ....I think this is meant for your son , I am sorry I opened it and there is a £20 note in it ....he grabbed it out my hand and slammed the door . Not a word from him ...not even a nod . If I get letters now I always check them , and if it has their name on it , I just put " Not at this address " ....and I pop it back in the post box at the end of the street . It would be no problem to walk round and post it through their door , but I am not used to being treated in such a way as I was treated that day . 🙄🤨 Sad that it's a world of " man mind thyself " .😟
  • debbiedo49debbiedo49 Posts: 2,574Member Brian Blessed
    Welcome and I enjoyed your post. Similar to where I live in terms of going from small to large village. Nowadays folks do not seem to be community minded but we do have some community groups bringing folks together in a way like they used to do in days gone by as neighbours and friends. I recently had a conversation with a neighbour upstairs in my close because of a water leak 2 years she has lived there! Wow


    I am a fibrowarrior!
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