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Atmosphere between my son and husband

sukiyakisukiyaki Member Posts: 2 Listener
edited April 2019 in Disabled parents
Hi everyone I'm feeling really positive having made this step forward joining scope. Thankyou for this opportunity! Xx

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  • Ami2301Ami2301 Community champion Posts: 6,618 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @sukiyaki welcome to the community! Would you like to tell us a bit about yourself? :)
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  • thespicemanthespiceman Member Posts: 6,408 Disability Gamechanger

    Hello @sukiyaki Pleased to meet you welcome.

    Thank you for joining and sharing.  Happy to have you here. You come to the right place for support and friendship.

    I am one of the team of community champions who guide, advise and help new members who join the forum.

    Please have a look around our website. We are friendly, care and share.

    Please ask if we can help and advise with anything.  Some one will know from our community or a member of our team.

    Please take care.

    @thespiceman

    Community Champion
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  • sukiyakisukiyaki Member Posts: 2 Listener
    I'm a support worker for people with learning disabilities but am presently off sick with physical problems due to fibromyalgia etc and anxiety. My husband does the same job plus he works at Victoria hospital as a him on the bench. My son is living with us again staying in a caravan in our back garden because he needs my help with coming off alcohol. He is an alcohol abuser and desperately needs help with this and with his mental health! My husband doesn't understand my son's problems and is very protective over my health and well being hence an atmosphere between both of them. HELP!! 
  • thespicemanthespiceman Member Posts: 6,408 Disability Gamechanger
    edited April 2019

    Hello @sukiyaki  Thank you for contacting the community.

    Thank you for sharing.  I am an reformed alcoholic and have been clean now for twelve years.

    I do understand what you are going through with you and your husband.

    The big problem with addiction I will say is that he needs professional guidance and help.

    You can not do this alone.

    There are options you can do.   First one is you need specialist help to come off you must understand this.

    You can contact your GP who can refer your son to a rehab centre. You can contact them .  Look on line for information.  In your area.

    This may I advise also you contact this charity I used before.

    It is a mental health charity.  Who deals with addiction as well mental health.

    https://www.richmondfellowship.org.uk.

    I also have the contact details for the following organisations

    AA .Alcoholics Anoymous

    National Helpline 0800 9177 650.

    Please can I add it is a difficult situation you are in.

    This I need to say to you. If he refuses to participate in any programme. You need to sign in over your son to any programme yourselves.

    There are Mental Health Acts and certain legalities.  Your rehab centre or your GP will explain to you.

    This happened to me . I refused to admit had an alcohol problem. So was I admitted under a Legal part of the Mental Health Act.

    This one of the problems with addiction of any sort. Unless he admits he has a problem or an issue.  Then you have to use legal means.

    I have been there. Became an outpatient through my GP.  Entered Rehab. Got signed in by former friends  as I refused to go.

    The Clinics are staffed by support workers and recovery workers.

    I do understand the torment, the emotion and pain.

    I am here anytime if you wish to ask me anything.

    Pleasure to meet you.

    Please take care.

    @thespiceman




    Community Champion
    SCOPE Volunteer Award Engaging Communities 2019
    Mental Health advice, guidance and information to all members
    Nutrition, Diet, Wellbeing, Addiction.
    Recipes
  • emmarenshawemmarenshaw Community champion Posts: 585 Pioneering
    Hello @sukiyaki welcome to the community.
  • Ami2301Ami2301 Community champion Posts: 6,618 Disability Gamechanger
    Sorry to hear about your current situation @sukiyaki @thespiceman has given you some great advice, let us know if we can be of any further help :)
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    Disability Gamechanger - 2019
  • Antonia_ScopeAntonia_Scope Member Posts: 1,783 Pioneering
    Welcome to the community @sukiyaki we happy to have you here, thank you for joining us. I am sorry to hear this. How are you and you family doing? Have you been in touch with the contacts mentioned? 

    There's some information from Alcohol Change and MIND that you may find useful. Please keep us updated.
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