During intense urges to hurt yourself, it can be hard to imagine that it's possible to do anything else.
But there are steps you can take to help you make other choices over time.
The main way people help themselves when they want to self-harm is through distraction.
Different distractions work for different people, and the same distraction won't necessarily work for you every time. For example, distracting yourself from anger feels very different to distracting yourself from fear, so it's important that you have a few different strategies to choose from.
The following are simply suggestions. See if you can write your own table of distractions that you've found helpful or that you would like to try out.
anger and frustration
Expressing your anger physically, or by doing things like shouting, won't work for everyone and could intensify feelings. Try things out and continue with any that have a positive effect.
sadness and fear
need to control
numb and disconnected