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Hi, my name is AmyRainbow76Fnd!

Looking for some advice.
My FND was really chronic around 2 yrs ago and I gave my husband power of attorney. Just found out he's got into serious debt, stopped paying utilities and credit cards over a year ago, and hid all the post from me.
I'm so angry with him but he says he's been suffering from depression and wasn't able to tell anyone!
He's been caught speeding and used me as a possible alternative driver, but as he hid the post I have 'failure to disclose' hanging over me.
What do I do? I love him but how could he do this?
I'm still so reliant on him but don't know if I can trust him again
My FND was really chronic around 2 yrs ago and I gave my husband power of attorney. Just found out he's got into serious debt, stopped paying utilities and credit cards over a year ago, and hid all the post from me.
I'm so angry with him but he says he's been suffering from depression and wasn't able to tell anyone!
He's been caught speeding and used me as a possible alternative driver, but as he hid the post I have 'failure to disclose' hanging over me.
What do I do? I love him but how could he do this?
I'm still so reliant on him but don't know if I can trust him again
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Sorry to hear this has happened. My thoughts are with you right now. I am here to be supportive, offer compassion and I can imagine your feeling many times emotional, distressed.
I am here to give some reassurance. You have done the right thing contacted our community.
I am sure we can advise and help you as a community.
I am one of the team of community champions. We guide, advise and help support members.
I am going to give you some links organisations to look at consider.
Also I am going to add some more for your husband.
He needs to talk to some one, depression a mental health issues is serious if not treated.
The incidents, the explanations are a common trait of any one going through a trauma. Needs specialist care and attention. Please can I stress this. He needs also to speak to his GP.
Unfortunately many men fail to do this.
Please can I add my concern and care is you first.
Please contact these organisations.
https://www.fndaction.org.uk.
https://www.lawsociety.org.uk.
The first one is a charity dedicated to your condition, information, advice and support. Very useful.
The other one is finding a Solicitor to ask for legal advice and some guidance.
Your husband needs to talk to a mental health charities.
https://www.richmondfellowship.org.uk.
https://www.mind.org.uk.
Please if I can help with any thing further. Please ask happy to be helping, listening and always ready to answer anything you may wish to ask.
If I can not let one of the SCOPE team will contact them on your behalf.
Please take care, warm and safe.
Pleasure to help you and meet you.
@thespiceman
Have you been in touch with CAB?
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