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Severe depression

shazbot360shazbot360 Member Posts: 4 Listener
edited January 14 in Parents and carers
hi all I'm 44 suffer severe depression since my daughter died in 2018 aged 24. I've had her little girl since both she's now 4 she has duplication  of  20p chromosome disorder  she has epilepsy  and has just been diagnosed  with  multiple  endocrine neoplasure type 2 which contributed  to  my daughter's death. Gracie also has lots of other problems.

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  • emmarenshawemmarenshaw Community champion Posts: 465 Pioneering
    A warm welcome to the community @shazbot360 I’m so sorry. The community and Scope Team are a wonderful bunch, so if there’s anything we can do to help or if you have any questions at all please don’t hesitate to ask.
  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 1,674 Disability Gamechanger
    edited January 11
    Hi @shazbot360 - Welcome to this supportive community; I'm pleased you've joined everyone here.
    I'm terribly saddened tho to read about the loss of your daughter, as we lost our youngest daughter, aged 23 months, quite some time ago. My heart goes out to you.
    This must also be difficult in that little Gracie has been diagnosed with multiple endocrine neoplasure type 2.
    Hoping you have continuing support from Gracie's specialists.
    Please talk here any time, as there's usually someone here. I'll also ask my friend @thespiceman to advise about your depression; you also need some support for yourself to help you look after your little granddaughter.

  • thespicemanthespiceman Community champion Posts: 6,196 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello  @shazbot360   Pleased to meet you.

    Thank you for joining and sharing.

    Sorry to hear this, you come to the right place. For support, advice and guidance.

    Most important of all friendship.

    Thank you to my lovely friend @chiarieds for including me in this post. Very grateful.

    I am one of the team of community champions.  We guide, advise and help, support members.

    Please I am sorry to hear your suffering depression.  Understand this a lot .  Have mental health issues a lot.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

    There is an organisation called CRUSE worth talking to.

    Bereavement charity always some one to talk to.

    I used them myself after losing close friends and girlfriends to addiction, no one to turn to. Isolated and lonely used these lovely people.

    https://www.cruse.org.uk.

    Depression please if I can advise also speak to the following mental health charities.

    Offer floating support excellent guidance, advice, information can and could help with many of your other problems or issues.

    Not only about mental health, wellbeing, health, benefits.  

    https://www.richmondfellowship.org.uk.

    https://www.mind.org.uk.

    https://www.rethink.org.

    Sorry to say might not be in all areas. You can self refer or speak to your GP.

    Please can I add contact me if I can help you with anything, offer compassion and empathy, sensitivity.

    Happy to be supportive, any questions please ask.

    Pleasure to meet you.

    Please take care.

    @thespiceman



    Community Champion
    SCOPE Volunteer Award Engaging Communities 2019
    Mental Health advice, guidance and information to all members
    Nutrition, Diet, Wellbeing, Addiction.
    Recipes
  • shazbot360shazbot360 Member Posts: 4 Listener
    thank you both for your kind words. I am still having counselling  for my daughter's death 22 months later docs think I may have ptsd . Gracies specialist  is fantastic and we have the support of a genetics nurse as well. thank you both x
  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 1,674 Disability Gamechanger
    @shazbot360 - You're most welcome. I'm pleased you're getting some support for your mental health & that Gracie's specialist is so very good too. Please know, any time you want to talk myself, thespiceman & other lovely people in this caring community will be more then happy to listen. Thank you for replying, & keep in touch, x
  • shazbot360shazbot360 Member Posts: 4 Listener
    wow your kind words have over welmed  me thank you nice to know how much support is out there x
  • RedWhenHotRedWhenHot Member Posts: 20 Connected
    Hello Shazbot,
    My god... you and Gracie are going through it.
    I can only imagine what it must feel like for you both. I'm so sorry.
    If I could send you strength, I would.
    I'm new here, but I hope you find the kind of comfort and companionship that you need, in this community.
    One thing I think we all have in common here, is that we're here for some support and understanding (that's two things...).
    Thinking of you both :)
  • shazbot360shazbot360 Member Posts: 4 Listener
    thank you so much x
  • thespicemanthespiceman Community champion Posts: 6,196 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @shazbot360   Thank you for kind words.

    Please have you had a chance to look at any of the links I sent to you.

    I know you have therapy and any thing to support you.

    Just thought an idea to see what else the charities can offer.

    I am caring, concerned old fashioned gentleman of the community.

    All I can say if you do apply. There will work with your therapists or counselling offer additional information, advice and support.

    When ever I enrolled in these charities even though coping, doing OK.

    Often discuss with me some other options, offered me support with my addiction even though clean and have been always grateful.

    If I needed some one.

    The need to talk after wards, can be enlighten and some one else who has been there.

    A lot of staff employed by charities personal issues, experiences and health histories.

    Helps any one coming in to join and get support.

    Understand every day a difficulty not easy wish I could more for you.

    Your not alone, and also please need to ask or talk about anything happy to be listening.

    I use this forum many times to offload, rant need to say how I am and what and how is life.

    One other bit of guidance speak to the Salvation Army.

    https://www.salvationarmy.org.uk.

    I used to do this contact the nearest Branch.  Speak to some one about how I am feeling losing friends due to addiction.

    Comfort, reassurance some times the words of the Bible most of all give some peace and solace.

    Please I hope that helps and gives some more support.

    Please take care in prayers and thoughts.

    @thespiceman

    Community Champion
    SCOPE Volunteer Award Engaging Communities 2019
    Mental Health advice, guidance and information to all members
    Nutrition, Diet, Wellbeing, Addiction.
    Recipes
  • Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Administrator Posts: 7,598 Scope community team
    Hi @shazbot360 and a very warm welcome to the community. I'm incredibly sorry to hear about your daughter and the impact it has had on your mental health. I wish you and Gracie all the best.

    We're a friendly bunch and always around if you need someone to talk to or get advice.

    Community Partner

    Scope
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