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Son with ADHD

JonlemoineJonlemoine Member Posts: 2 Listener
edited March 27 in Parents and carers
Hi all, I'm new to the community group. Hoping someone has some advice for us. We have a 5yo boy who has been referred for Adhd. From the age of two his behaviour was always a lot more extreme than those around him. More recently in school he's been observed by specialists who believe he does have adhd. We are now awaiting an official assessment and diagnosis but this could take along time I've heard. 

The last few month have been a particular struggle with his behaviour and more recently physical outbursts hitting people. We've tried all sorts to manage it from reward charts, behaviour plans to multi vitamin supplements (we'd been told it can help them focus) . He's now slowly being excluded from extra curricular activities which he loves as he is difficult to manage.

Can anyone suggest anything they've tried to help calm their children down a little or something that's helped them focus. It's upsetting seeing all the things he enjoys slowly being taken away from him. He's such a bright child and it's very clear he's remorseful for his actions when he calms down but he often tells us he can't help getting angry or not listening. 

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  • EricaMcDEricaMcD Community champion Posts: 22 Connected
    Hi,  I am sorry to hear your story.  It can take awhile to get a formal diagnosis.  What I would suggest if you haven't done this already is going into see his teachers to let them know, if they don't, what triggers your sons outbursts.  Do you have a stress ball that he can use in the classroom?  Does he have anywhere he can go, a quiet room etc that he can go during breaks to calm him down?  I have found that teachers in this country do not have much training about how they and teaching assistants can make adjustments that can make a significant difference to a child's participation in school and extra curricula activities. 

    If I can assist you with any further advice please let me know.     
  • JonlemoineJonlemoine Member Posts: 2 Listener
    EricaMcD said:
    Hi,  I am sorry to hear your story.  It can take awhile to get a formal diagnosis.  What I would suggest if you haven't done this already is going into see his teachers to let them know, if they don't, what triggers your sons outbursts.  Do you have a stress ball that he can use in the classroom?  Does he have anywhere he can go, a quiet room etc that he can go during breaks to calm him down?  I have found that teachers in this country do not have much training about how they and teaching assistants can make adjustments that can make a significant difference to a child's participation in school and extra curricula activities. 

    If I can assist you with any further advice please let me know.     
    Thank you for your response. To be fair the school have been really good to date. His own space used to work but as he's got a bit older it works less and less. I've just, subscribed to mindful monsters so we are giving that a go at the moment. I think he likes closing his eyes and imaging other places which is one of the activities on the cards. 

    We might give the stress ball another go as well. I think that may help him calm down a bit. 

    Its often upsetting seeing him once he realises what he's done and then explaining to us he doesn't know why he does it or how to stop it. Hopefully we can find a technique that hits the spot and works for us.

    Thank you again for your help 

    Jon
  • Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Administrator Posts: 7,598 Scope community team
    Hi @Jonlemoine, how are you getting on?
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    Scope
  • Kev2020Kev2020 Community champion Posts: 27 Connected
    Hi. Kev here I'm an early years professional.

    It sounds like your on the right track with the strategy plans your doctor so well done.

    My advice would be to have a focus object in the past this could be a book or photo.
    Also what I've found really good is ear phones that you have on you and when you need to have your own space you can put them in and sit down .. or get on with something on your own.
    You can also wear just one with sounds that you like to help you get through day to day stuff.

    Hope that helps 

    Keep in touch
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