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My 18 year old Aspergers brother
Hello, new to this ! I am 20 and my younger brother is now 18, we found out he has aspergers when he stopped going to school at age 13. He now just sits in his room all day, unemployed and uninterested in anything but his computer. My mum has done so much taken years off work to try to help but he won’t change until he wants to I think. I have had to move in with my grandparents about 60 miles away as the situation is too stressful for me as I suffer from low mood and anxiety which I currently receiving treatment for. I feel my mum has given up a bit she has tried everything and now in order to keep him happy my family let him get away with murder. This is only because they love him and worry for him. Some how during my absence they’ve allowed a lock on his bedroom door so now his communication has reduced even more. They feel he is an adult now so struggle to tell him what to do as he does not listen and will do whatever he wants to do. Every day he will go out to the shop to buy food and will go downstairs to see the dog but other than that his social life is nothing. I do still find it hard to see it as on the spectrum and not just laziness and I feel bad for nagging him to do stuff because I couldn’t imagine how it feels. But he can’t carry on like this he has no GCSE’s or anything to put on a CV. Does anyone have any advice at all, or any hope that things will get better. Happy to answer anymore questions if you have any. Thanks in advance