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Aspergers and the Lockdown.

AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
I am feeling all kinds of things right now due to the lockdown. But perhaps the biggest thing I feel is frustrated with my Day to day life. I admit the things I did before lockdown, like go for meals spend time with family and friends I took for granted in the past. But i realise just how much i need routine  in my life since the lockdown. I try to entertain my self ny doing things that interest me like music watching DVD's and talking to my friends on the phone. But of late I have become moody and sensitive. Which I assume is to do with my AS. But I am not sure how long I can keep it together. Dose any one have any suggestions to help me.

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  • Adrian_ScopeAdrian_Scope Administrator Posts: 7,030 Scope community team
    Hi @AvsNutWhalley.
    I'm glad you found your way to us. I think this lockdown is affecting everyone in unexpected ways. I know my patience is running pretty thin at the moment and I'm struggling at times to enjoy even the things I still can do.
    Have you had a look at creating new routines? I know so many people have been putting temporary measures in place for a situation that has become increasingly more permanent and trying to develop a routine that becomes the 'new normal' for you might be the way to go.
    Senior Community Partner
    Scope
  • Denise11Denise11 Member Posts: 68 Courageous
    Hi @AvsNutWhalley

    I guess lock down would effect your AS a great deal, and I'm sorry to hear that your findings things very hard!  
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    Hi guys thanks for the replies. Yes I have tried new routines but I get easy confused and sometimes my concentration is what it should always should be.
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 1,469 Pioneering
    Hi @AvsNutWhalley Welcome to the community I think you are feeling just like many of us are at this difficult time, it sure makes you appreciate what you had before.

    I am finding just sitting outside in the garden or going for a little outing on my mobility scooter helps so Im not staring at the same walls.

    Also trying out new recipes and also coming on the forum reading other posts.

    I hope you try and stay positive and look forward and plan what you will do when klockdown has eased    
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    To Janer1967. Thank you very much for your kind words. I am trying to get through this lockdown as best as I can. Will you keep in touch with me Janer? All the best and may this be the first of many chats we will have in the future. 
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 1,469 Pioneering
    Hi again @AvsNutWhalley

    Of course we can stay in touch I am around here most days as I am a community champion 
    .
    Just put on a post or once you have posted about 25 times you can post on my wall . If you tag me in your post I will get notification 

    Have good afternoon 
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    To Janer1967. I would like to keep in contact with you very much. I look forward to many more future conversations in this wonderful group.
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 1,469 Pioneering
    I look forward to seeing you around to drag me just put the @ symbol before my user name 
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 1,469 Pioneering
    Put the @ before my name to tag me 

  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    @ Janer1967. Sorry
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    @ Janer1967. Hi new friend. When you get this message will you reply as I would like to get to know people on here a little better.
  • Adrian_ScopeAdrian_Scope Administrator Posts: 7,030 Scope community team
    Hi @AvsNutWhalley. If you make sure there's no spaces between the @ symbol and the name e.g. @janer1967, the person you're mentioning will receive a notification. :smile:
    Senior Community Partner
    Scope
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 1,469 Pioneering
    Hi @AvsNutWhalley

    How are you doing today ? 
    Sorry for late reply I dont normally go online till afternoon as I home school my son . 

    What are you doing today 
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    @ Janer1967. I went to the driving range with my Father. I did play very well but it was nice to stretche my legs and spend time with my Dad.
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 1,469 Pioneering
    That's great doesn't matter how you played as you say it got you out and also time with family 

    Do you have any plans for the weekend ? 
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    @Janer1967. Prehaps my parents might have BBQ in the garden  as long as the weather holds out.
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 1,469 Pioneering
    That will be nice do you live with your parents ? 
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    @ Janer1967. Yes I do I live with my parents and have done for the last 39 years or so. In the same house I was born in, in 1981
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 1,469 Pioneering
    Wow same house all your life I think I have lived in about 8 different places been settled in my area for last 14 years but in 2 different houses 
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    @Janer1967. I have no choice. If it weren't for my parents I shudder to think were I would be now as I reach middle age.
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 1,469 Pioneering
    Its good you have their support 

    Which area of uk do you live 
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    @Janer1967. Liverpool in the North Western part of England and yes its famous for The Beatles. LOL!!!
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 1,469 Pioneering
    I have been to liverpool a couple of times 
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    @janer1967. That's nice. Where are you from.
  • mia97mia97 Member Posts: 19 Courageous
    @AvsNutWhalley

    Hey! Hope you are well and having a good day so far!

    I too am Autistic and have found lockdown/current situation very difficult at times. The change in routine or lack of routine has thrown me a lot. However, I have a few suggestions which may help you; Think of this situation as a chance to create a new routine (which I know will be difficult to adapt to at first) but this is your chance to create a routine which suits you - this is really exciting, for once we are in control of what we want to do, without having the usually day to day expectations (such as working 9-5). And as we are restricted with what we can do (i.e. not being able to meet up with friends, go to work, other leisure activities, etc), try to fill up your time with some of your other favourite hobbies. An example, I made a timetable for me to follow during these weeks, I have made it very specific but if I do not achieve everything on the planner for that day, that is okay - no pressure! Just the feeling that there is some sort of routine in place, is very beneficial and really does help!

    During lockdown, I have been spending more time with my family, my dog and going for runs/walks. Also I have watched a lot of films/series on Netflix - there are so many great shows out there!

    I hope some of my suggestions help and do not hesitate to ask anything. Take care👍😀
  • AvsNutWhalleyAvsNutWhalley Member Posts: 23 Connected
    @mia97. Thanks for your advace. Its nice to know your feeling the same as me. How old are you. Please keep in touch if at any time you lonely and need a friendly ear.
  • mia97mia97 Member Posts: 19 Courageous
    @AvsNutWhalley No problem at all, happy to help! I am 22 years old. How old are you? and sure, I only use this website every now and then, but I always try to respond when I can
  • Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Administrator Posts: 8,869 Scope community team
    mia97 said:
    @AvsNutWhalley

    Hey! Hope you are well and having a good day so far!

    I too am Autistic and have found lockdown/current situation very difficult at times. The change in routine or lack of routine has thrown me a lot. However, I have a few suggestions which may help you; Think of this situation as a chance to create a new routine (which I know will be difficult to adapt to at first) but this is your chance to create a routine which suits you - this is really exciting, for once we are in control of what we want to do, without having the usually day to day expectations (such as working 9-5). And as we are restricted with what we can do (i.e. not being able to meet up with friends, go to work, other leisure activities, etc), try to fill up your time with some of your other favourite hobbies. An example, I made a timetable for me to follow during these weeks, I have made it very specific but if I do not achieve everything on the planner for that day, that is okay - no pressure! Just the feeling that there is some sort of routine in place, is very beneficial and really does help!

    During lockdown, I have been spending more time with my family, my dog and going for runs/walks. Also I have watched a lot of films/series on Netflix - there are so many great shows out there!

    I hope some of my suggestions help and do not hesitate to ask anything. Take care👍😀
    Thank you for sharing this @mia97, some great suggestions! I hope the routine is helping. What things have you been watching on Netflix's? :)
    Community Partner
    Scope
  • mia97mia97 Member Posts: 19 Courageous
    @Chloe_Scope

    Hi Chloe,

    No problem at all, I am happy to share and hopefully it will help others. I am lucky to be able to work from home, but also being autistic has definitely had its challenging times during lockdown. I have an advocate through a company which helps me, I wrote an article regarding Autism and COVID19 - from what I have seen on SCOPE, so far, I think it would help some people. Not sure how I would share it on here? Also I have written many other articles regarding mental health in general, as part of work - but I primarily work in IT.

    I have just finished watching 'Dead to Me' on Netflix, a brilliant series. Recommend this to people, if you like crime/thriller type series. Other than that, Friends is always a good watch, one of those series I have watched many times, but never gets old and is a great uplifting programme, especially during times like now.

    I hope you are well and have a good day👍😀
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 1,469 Pioneering
    Hi again hope you had a good bank holiday weekend .
    We took advantage of the new easing and we went to the coast had fish and chips looking out to sea 

    I'm glad to see your meeting lots new people on here and making friends 
  • fairybellsxofairybellsxo Member Posts: 44 Courageous
    Hello :) 

    I hope you are feeling much better, I completely understand how this feels as I myself have Asperger's also and I was diagnosed in January. So I was still processing all of this when Lock down happened and it made me feel MORE isolated initially with that thought in mind.

    The thought of not having a routine/seing people etc really worried and upset me and It took me a long while to adjust to the new normal, as with all changes in life I tend to feel I am going a little bit crazy and I am very aware of my own emotions, I realize to your average person it might seem like an over reaction :( but to me it feels so scary and real!

    I have found that coming onto forums like this helps me majorly as I know I am not alone in my thoughts/way of thinking, I have found some wonderful series on Netflix! ' A Typical ' Is about a boy with autism living his day to day life! this was interesting and funny as I found alot of it so relatable! LOVE is also a great series which I have seen twice :) 

    I like to draw and paint and write poetry I have found that it helps turning your emotions/thoughts into art work if you have that kind of a streak, as you feel you have ' achieved ' something from what ' you ' perceive as negative emotions into something to be proud of :) 

    Whenever I feel scared about change I always tell myself this-
    No matter how hard everything new feels at the time, I ALWAYS get used to it in the end and I always get by I just have to overcome the idea of change and we all do, it's just about being kind to ourselves while we get used to it.

    I hope this helps :) 


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