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linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
I need a little support and reassurance 

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  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Administrator Posts: 1,358 Pioneering
    Hello @linnie2016 and welcome to our community.

    You have come to the right place for some support and reassurance, we are here to help you.  Is there anything in-particular you are struggling with at the minute? 
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  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    Hi yes I'm struggling with my mental health. My sons behaviour and the fact that I feel compley usless
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 4,515 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi and welcome in board what do you want help with 

    Just ask away 
  • poppy123456poppy123456 Community champion Posts: 20,510 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi and welcome,

    Can you give us a little more information about what you'd like support and reassurance with? I'm sure someone will be able to help you.
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  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Administrator Posts: 1,358 Pioneering
    @linnie2016 Ah lovely, I am sure you are anything but completely useless.  I'm sorry you feel that way  :(

    Are you getting support with your mental health from a GP or local mental health team?  How has your son been behaving?
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  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    Yeah my docs help me and I am waiting for coinciding. My son is 2, he is currently been accessed for autism but that's not the issue, he wont stop hitting and attacking his sister and step brothe . He hits at school and he does not seem to understand no, it does not register to him that he is hurting others and that it is wrong, I do not know hoe to get him to stop, I tell him no and that it's bad but he will straight away do it again
  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    This has been happening for 7 months now and I cant seem to deal with it any more
  • steve51steve51 Community champion Posts: 7,175 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @linnie2016

    Good Evening it's great to meet you today 🌝 

    I am one of the Community Champions here at Scope. 

    Please please let me know if there is anything that I can help /support you with???

    @steve51
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Administrator Posts: 1,358 Pioneering
    edited October 1
    @linnie2016 I bet you are worn out, that sounds exhausting.  

    We have more parents of children who have ASD or suspected ASD that post on our Autism and Aspergers discussion board if you want to look there at what others have shared.

    Also, have you heard of Scope's Navigate service?  It's a free service that provides emotional support and advice to parents of disabled children.  As part of the support you can get help with:
    • organising your thoughts and feelings
    • practical advice and suggestions
    • coping strategies and insights
    • taking positive actions and helping you with emotional wellbeing
    Visit the Navigate webpage for more information on how to contact the friendly team.

    Finally, a big squeeze to you.  This must feel so challenging and just know it won't last forever and will get better.  Our members are here whenever you need a vent.
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  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    Thank you all guys I really appreciate it 
  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 4,593 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @linnie2016 - I'm so sorry to read about what you're going through. I can only endorse what Cher has said, as we have had several parents saying how good Scope's Navigate team are. They are there to support you, & help your family, so I hope you contact them.
    Meanwhile, this is also a very helpful & supportive community, so please continue to talk here any time, & let us know how you're getting on. :)
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Administrator Posts: 1,277 Pioneering
    Welcome to the community @linnie2016 :) It certainly sounds like you've been having a tough time. How have you been getting on today? 
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  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    Hi thank you for your replies, I had a call from a lovely lady from scope this morning and I am on the waiting list to have a call for the support me and my son need, I am feeling ok today thank you, my son is at nursery so it gives me a few hours to wind down, how is everyone else today x
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Administrator Posts: 1,277 Pioneering
    That's great news @linnie2016, I'm so pleased! 

    Enjoy your relax time. Are you doing anything nice to look after yourself, or just chilling out? 
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  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    I am catching up on my soaps lol, and taking a very long shower 😂 x
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Administrator Posts: 1,277 Pioneering
    That sounds like a great Friday to me! I LOVE a long hot shower. Enjoy @linnie2016 :)
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  • Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Administrator Posts: 10,557 Scope community team
    Morning @linnie2016, how are you? :)
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  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    Hi I am ok thankyou, i had a bad weekend and wanted to live in my bedroom but I felt ok today. Shay is not at nursery as he did not sleep at all through the night and is wide awake now lol so we are going to try a trampoline park for mothers and toddlers for the first time and hopefully all goes well, how are you x
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Administrator Posts: 1,277 Pioneering
    Sorry to hear you had a bad weekend @linnie2016. Is he back at nursery today? 

    Was the trampoline park good? I went to a trampoline park (as an adult) a couple of years ago and loved it!
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  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    Hi tori yeah it was fantastic thanks, I am really worried, my stepson has been tested for covid and it came back positive, I last saw him 10 days ago, will I need to get me and the kids tested??
  • Ross_ScopeRoss_Scope Administrator Posts: 755 Pioneering
    Sorry to hear about your stepson's positive test @linnie2016, hopefully he makes a quick recovery. 

    I think first of all you should check this NHS page to see if you should be self isolating. 

    I would advise asking for a test if you develop symptoms, but the best course of action would probably be to give your GP a phone call and query it with them.

    All the best
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  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    Hi guys, so I tested the kids and myself so waiting for results but I think were ok, I have having a really bad morning today, my son will not stop attacking my daughter, hes pulling her hair so hard he has chunks of hair in his hands, I move him away put him on time out and nothing is working, i have took his drink from him because he is tipping it into his toys so now I'm the target for his lashing ou . Hes slapped me so hard its leaving Mark's! He is 2 for god sake!! I do not know what to do 😭 x
  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    Hes just threw a toy at my daughter and it bounced off her head! 
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Administrator Posts: 1,358 Pioneering
    oh @linnie2016 he is testing you this morning isn't he.  I really feel for you.  

    I'm not a mum so am unsure what to advise :(  Are you able to separate him away from his sister and distract him with something he enjoys doing?  
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  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    I tried hun, I gave him toys and we were singing and dancing but every opportunity  he had he ran at her and hurt her, I had to put him in his room for a hour because I was angry with him and it gave me time to cool down and Alissa a break from been hit ect
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Administrator Posts: 1,358 Pioneering
    @linnie2016 It sounds like you handled that really well!  

    Fingers crossed for your test results too.  Do you know when to expect the results back?
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  • linnie2016linnie2016 Member Posts: 13 Listener
    They will receive the test today so in the next 48 hours
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Administrator Posts: 1,277 Pioneering
    Any news on the test result @linnie2016
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