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Undiagnosed language disorder

Marie88Marie88 Member Posts: 31 Connected
edited November 11 in Learning difficulties
I think I have a language disorder as all my life I have struggled with communication and expressing my thoughts and describing things both spoken and written. I struggled with English and most other subjects at school.  I’m in my early 30s now and started doing an online English course but really struggling with it. I think I’m going to look for a private tutor to help me.  I just really want this diagnosed, I saw my GP in 2019 and explained my problems and they tried to refer me for an assessment but it wasn’t accepted because I’m an adult and wasn’t in education at the time, so maybe now I’m studying part time and struggling I will be able to. But I still don’t see why I had to be in education to be referred. 

Some of the main things I struggle with are:

Limited vocabulary
Find it hard to learn new words and remember them
Struggle to put things into my own words both spoken and written
Struggle to write emails, job applications, have to ask family member to help me
Staying quiet in social situations as can’t find the words to join in, or out of fear of being laughed at as I have in the past
Find it hard to make friends
Forget words/not knowing name of something, so will just say ‘that thing’
Struggle to understand jokes
Misunderstand things people say to me
Struggle to keep up with conversations
Struggle to understand verbal instructions, needs to be written out clearly
Find it hard to form my own opinions on most things

Because of this I’ve always found it hard to make friends and it feels lonely and brings me down. I have my family and partner who are great but I just wish I could make my own friends and feel like I can be more independent and not rely on their help all the time. I also struggled at work in an office roles, emails were a nightmere. I have persistent pain so admin work is most suitable for me but these difficulties hold me back so much and I’m worried about finding another job.

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this or has any advice?


  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 5,144 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi there

    You have put together a very comprehensive post here so well done I dont know much about the subject  so not sure where to sign post you to for advice 

    Maybe somewhere that deals with adult learning difficulties, hopefully one of the scope team can help @Cher_Scope @Tori_Scope have you got any ideas for this member
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Administrator Posts: 1,842 Pioneering
    Hi @Marie88 and thank you for telling us in detail about the difficulties you've faced.  That can't have been easy, especially during your school-life, so well done you for persisting to get through it.

    Unfortunately, I'm not familiar with language disorders and don't know anyone who has one but I think you should be able to access support with a view to getting a diagnosis. 

    Admittedly, my research is coming up with little in terms of practical signposting but here's my advice:

    Now you are back in education, I'd return to your GP to inform them how your impairment is continuing to cause you difficulties.  I'd stress how last time you were refused access to the appropriate services and then describe the negative impact this had on your quality of life.  If this might be a struggle, I'd print out what you posted to us and show your doctor.  Hopefully this would be sufficient for them to act on your obvious needs and refer you on to the appropriate department.  Out of interest, was this the Speech and Language Therapy team or an educational psychologist?

    Also, you mention that you are studying part-time.  Does the education provider have a disability services department you could self-refer to for advice?  They would be well placed to implement any adjustments you need for your learning and might also be able to suggest different routes for obtaining support.

    Good luck and please let us know how you get on :)
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