Munchauser by proxy
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shrubs56
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My son has Aspergers severe depression anxiety and OCD.My husband (not sons dad) told me a few years ago that I had Munchenhauser by proxy. I forgave him for that but now he’s suggesting that something sinister in my sons past is causing his current depression and anxiety. My mind is in overdrive that my son may have been abused as a child and I can’t stop thinking about it!
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Some men are just cruel. It is usually a man who is jelouse of the love between mother and child.
Unless there is more evidence I would disregard anything he says and when you can dump him.
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@shrubs56
Welcome to the community
Your husband should be supporting you and your son at this difficult time, not laying blame or suggesting bad things in the past.
As I understand it, depression, anxiety and even OCD can be part of Aspergers.
And you can tell your husband that this information comes from Experts Psychiatrist and Psychologist who diagnosed my son.
I thought this idea of blaming mothers was a thing of the past!
I had social services trying to blame me 15 years ago but the Experts put them right.
It's so hurtful isn't it?
Sorry, but your husband needs to get a grip and start supporting you.
Wishing you well and keep coming to the forum if you can manage it.
There's always plenty of discussions going on.
Keep your chin up. -
my my wife has N.E.S.S which is similar to p.d.s.d in symptoms .....when we went to see a specialist in this illness I was asked to leave the room ........when I later asked sandy my wife what happened she said that she was asked if I was abusing her ....if her father or grandfather had abused her or if I was holding her against her will.....nice ! Non of these happened ....her dad died of lung cancer ,her brother drank itself to death and her mother had a devastating stroke within 2 years ....she had so much grief that she couldn’t cope and that’s what triggered her anxiety.......we had a pip assessment recently and the interrogation was relentless and she had an attack in the building ......so don’t take it personally they just don’t care who they upset .....
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@stephenjohn
Good morning
That's awful on both counts, your wife being questioned in such a way by the specialist and also the PIP "interrogation" causing an attack!
Obviously, your wife needs a bit of gentle understanding, care and treatment to help with her grief.
Any normal person could see that just by reading your comment.
None of this will have helped your wife in any way, in fact probably made her condition worse.
In @shrubs56 case it's her own husband who is blaming her! To the point where she's actually researching Munchausens!!
The one person who should be giving her his full support is now causing her to question and worry about the past!
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So I’m going t o my sons tomorrow but I know if I do this my marriage is over so I’ve packed a bag to take with me! ??
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@shrubs56
It sounds like an awful situation.
Do you mean your husband doesn't like you seeing your son? -
He thinks I’m enabling his behaviours.
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Hi @shrubs56. How are you getting on?
This sounds like a really difficult situation. Did your husband indicate why he thinks your son might have suffered abuse?
If you do have concerns about it and your son would like some support, there are a range of charities out there supporting victims. You can find a few of them outlined here by Supportline. It also might be worth contacting social services to see if you can arrange any support for your son if you feel like it's affecting him.Community Manager
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