Any tips, ideas, suggestions for our sex life?

Hi there! I'm new to the community here, but while I was looking around in other posts I came upon yours and was like "Finally!". My husband is pretty severely disabled (CP, right side hemiplegia, ankylosing spondulitis, ulcerative colitis, scoliosis among others) and uses a wheelchair. He's unable to stand, or sit straight, or lay flat, or move his legs apart, or bend his legs flat, or turn/move his head. We are both in our 20s, and really incredibly in love. There's absolutely nothing wrong with his mind, but his poor body is just broken and our sex life is always a struggle even though we both really *want* to have as normal a sex life as we possibly can. We've been able to find our own way of having sex, mostly with myself being on top, but I've got horrible knees and I am really scared about hurting him. All I can think about while I'm there is making sure I'm not putting too much weight on him, or accidentally putting a hand or foot somewhere I shouldn't. We are both very open about our feelings and what works or doesn't, but we're honestly stuck because we keep thinking "there has to be a better way!" and we just don't know it, or where to even turn to! I mean, we eventually would like to conceive (in the distant future) but we've got to be able to figure out a better way of having sex in order for that to even be a remote possibility. Any tips, ideas, suggestions--whatever! would be so incredibly welcome

I completely understand! It is that time of the year I have looked at the liberator wedges before, and it might just be me but I have a hard time picturing in my mind how they would work for us. I don't think I'd be able to put one under him because, well simply put, we'd probably need a hoist and we don't have one of those. I am intrigued because he could definitely use all the support he can get. I haven't heard of Outsiders, but I will absolutely give it a look and see if I can drum up any ideas over there. I was looking all over the internet yesterday for forums or something pertaining to CP/Hemiplegia and sex but I honestly found nearly nothing. I never realized before how few resources there were for the disabled just looking for honest advice! Anyway, we are in the UK near Manchester. I am American and have been here for slightly over a year so services and stuff are still a learning experience for me. I did look for a sex therapist but the nearest one I saw through the NHS was in London, and well, that's not going to be a possibility for us.