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Dealing with changes, recovery, uncertainty, depression
Hi all, I'm new to the forum but felt I needed to connect with ppl who appreciate what I am going through. In brief: I am a 34 year old, newly married women who 3 years ago had surgery to tendons in my hip. Unfortunately this op turned out to be a botch job and I have needed another 2 operations to try and resolve the issues which were caused by my initial op. This in total has dragged on for 3 years. I am now 3 weeks post op (3rd op) and I'm just feeling emotionally exhausted and physically exhausted too. I am fully employed and have been with the same company for 7 years. Whilst work have been very supportive with my condition (my manager and hr) and time off; my work colleagues have shown no real compassion or interest in my absence (making me feel more worthless than I already do), my friends were initially quite good but 3 operations along; they've kind of lost interest and do not understand. My husband is an absolute star and has stuck by me through everything but I can see he's struggling seeing me struggle. We cannot plan anything as I never know how I'm going to feel and life is a complete struggle. My life has changed drastically from the fun loving, outgoing person I used to be and I just feel so isolated at the moment. I am so anxious that this operation won't be successful and to be honest I just cannot cope very well. I try so hard not to get in that circle of depression and I try and stay strong but I'm crumbling inside. Unfortunately the condition/issues I have is unheard of in the medical world. Pfffttttttt