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How to have a close relationship without sex
Hi, Can you help. I've been married for 46 years and always got on well with MOH but recently we've started to argue over little things. For example he will swear blind he's said something when he hasn't or said something twice when I know he's wrong. Usually I back down to keep the peace but today I didn't and we had a blazing row during which he accused me of having Dementia and telling me to go to the Doctor to get sorted out. I am physically disabled and my husband sees himself as my carer. He is also carer to a grown up adopted son who has mental health problems and lives nearby. However he seems to cope with all this quite well and I think the problems we are having are due to recently having trouble with sex. He makes out it's because I'm "always ill" and then I hit back with "it's not just me" as he has trouble achieving an erection we think is a side effect to blood pressure tablets. I am OK with this but need a loving relationship with physical contact but he has always associated showing affection with sex and without it you have to avoid any sort of contact apart from a quick peck on the lips to say good night. We sleep in separate rooms for practical reasons. Firstly how should I react to a petty argument and how can I get him to realize that a close, loving relationship isn't all about sex?